Category: Ask Black Witch


There are several months that I went without doing Ask Black Witch so I’m going through the lot of them today and answering! Some will be grouped together because they’re the same question, especially the dumb ones. As I always say when people send them in: “Good questions are appreciated, stupid questions are eviscerated”.

Let’s get into it:

A few years ago I found a strange object on my front doormat. It appeared to be a kind of wreath made from twigs and also some of the solar fairy lights from my garden. I dismissed it at the time but I’ve had a very bad run of luck since and only just remembered this incident. Could it be some kind of curse? If so is there a way to reverse it? Thanks for your time.

– J. Lee

This question was from months ago! I feel bad I didn’t get to it until now but here it goes.

A good way to know if it was a jinx versus “life sucks sometimes”: When you threw it away, did the misfortune stop after a while? There’s a bunch of other ways to check but that is the top one because no more wreath, no more issues! Otherwise, I think you’re just practicing confirmation bias because things have been crappy for a while and this is the only out-of-place thing your mind could come up with.

I get a few questions like these, the “something suspicious occurred and now bad stuff happens, am I cursed?” and the part that marvels me the most is that practically everyone who asks do not really know anyone who practices magick in any way, shape or form but I have a phone book full of magick practitioners and I don’t ever think the same “I’ve been hexxed” thought.

Unfortunately, life is pretty crappy, bad things will happen, even way out of the blue. I think this situation is a reference of confirmation bias. Bad things were simply happening, this is the only odd thing her mind pinged up and there you go, the thought connection of “Weird wreath + string of bad luck = weird wreath is causing the string of bad luck”. They could very well be a coincidence, not a correlation.

One reason why I say that is because, if I wanted to jinx anyone, I don’t think I would leave a jinxing item right where someone could find it easily. I mean, if you’re going to be a vengeful person, why not try to stretch it out as far as you can? If I were trying to leave it on someone doorstep, it seems more like a scare tactic than an actual jinx.

Now, maybe someone actually wanted to jinx you and this is really why they made this. If so, talk about poor skills! Chances are stupidly good they got sticks from nearby trees, regardless of kind of tree (the type of tree matters in magick), yinked your fairy lights because maybe they thought the “lighting” property of the lights (I can probably bet they were off/unplugged) would “activate” the spell since it is something of yours (but not something worn like clothing or hair). And left on doormat because…they wanted you to see it, I guess? Otherwise, it would have been hidden somewhere to cause latent mischief. It just seems so poorly cobbled together that I kind of doubt that this is a real jinx.

Basically, it’s possibly you practicing confirmation bias and pretty much reading into a weird prank.

Hello. I really need to talk to you. I have been following your page for about 3 years. I even bought the book where to park your broomstick which I do enjoy. I am a Christian but I have a real desire to learn about witch craft. I feel it in my heart. About 3 years ago I was interested in learning about African American people who practice their calling and I found you. I happen to be African American and I feel that you are important. Can I trust what I am hearing? I hear angels who led me here? What advice can you give about becoming a witch?

– Gina I.

I am glad she takes my suggestions, this is very nice. The book is super informative! Thankfully, there is Christian occultism and Christian witchcraft (just means that you still do regular Christian things but use it also in spell work, such as referring to the Holy Trinity instead of the Lord and Lady/God and Goddess, perhaps work in Angel Work, stuff like that) so you don’t have to worry about a major pull between Paganism and Christian practices. I actually wrote about this at length.

As for hearing angels, that’s fine but be cautious. I would recommend doing more research about angel work and keeping up with your meditations, if you’re doing any, to balance yourself. This also helps ward off any “am I possessed/haunted” paranoia that tends to come if you’re not keeping in touch with yourself. Y’know, continue practicing grounding, centering, things like that. I recommend using meditation apps like Intellicare’s Purple Chill if you have any difficulty.

Keep a journal, too. The best you can do is write down what you hear and your reflections so you can review them later down the line. This will help you note trends and patterns in your practice. I recommend being cautious because the thing about angels is that they’re not exactly “people with wings”. Interacting with angels can be pretty scary, especially when you get to Seraphims and Thrones. Angels, as a whole, basically just do God’s bidding and don’t really mess with humans much because, hey, it’s too big a universe to just mess with only one of God’s creatures because they’re so dumb they even attack one another based on how light or dark their skin is. Even giving guidance to a random pill bug skittering across an flower bed is probably a better use of time, at least it helps nature just a bit.

A good Angel Dictionary/Encyclopedia is The Encyclopedia of Angels, Second Edition by Rosemary Ellen Guiley. There is a .pdf version online but it’s a very good book so I strongly recommend buying it if you can, as you can see from the online read-through. This book has an index, bibliographic references, everything to serve as a great basis on reading up about angels according to Abrahamic lore.

Hello, I am somewhat new to the magical world. I am an Atheist and the question I have is regarding that. My question is, since I am an Atheist will things such as magick be weakened or non existent when I attempt to perform a spell?

– Reinhardt V.

Witchcraft is a lifestyle, not a religion. You’re thinking of Paganism, which Witchcraft has plenty of involvement with but Paganism, as a whole, does not hold the copyright on Witchcraft. Magick is fueled by intent and energy work, so you just have to practice on those and modify learned spells that have a focus on deities and entities for yourself.

However, you’re still going to have to do research in spellwork and most likely read up on deities anyways as you learn magick because modern Paganism pulls from a variety of cultures, which had deity work in them. This is so things will make sense or prepared to be incredibly confused.

I have what I believe is a hex with a property of “all hexes and curses stuck” on me. I don’t think the person who did this is still angry and she may have forgotten to remove it. How do I go about removing the hex and any other curses or hexes that are stuck on me because of it? Thank you for your time.

– Jacob

Spells are usually powered by intent so if the intent loses power (being pissed at you) then sometimes it dissipates. If it’s constructed to be “karmic only”, then it stops by itself after it deals out what you dealt out to her, (this is a hyper simplification of “karmic jinxes”). If it’s one of those follow-you-around jinxes, you can break those using dragon’s blood (comes in a body wash formula! Tis nifty!) and bay leaves but if you know the person who did it and the fact that water is under the bridge between the both of you…why don’t you bring it up to them?

Yes, it would be an awkward conversation, especially if the person doesn’t practice magick and this all could be a case of “confirmation bias” (meaning you’re reading into a situation to see a problem that possibly isn’t there) but if you’re certain, bring it up. Maybe you should talk to the person.

I am doing a lot of research about Body Switching spells. I am quite new into Wicca and Magick in general, and I’d like to know if you would have any resources or lectures about this subject in general.

Now, I would understand if you refused to tell me, seeing that a lot of people seem to be asking you to do spells out of fetishes. That’s not my case. My problem is that I believe that, even if the medical processes can appease a lot of dysphoria, I would rather switch body with a person that shares the same problem as me, except from the other biological sex. I have the consent of that person, so this is something we both agree on.

If you would have any information about these kind of spells ( if they actually exist, that is ) I would really really love if you could share to me any kind of knowledge you would have regarding Body Switching.

Thanks a lot for your response in advance.

Sincerely,
Melissa

This – THIS – is how you ask a question! It’s about body switching but notice the reference to obvious research and reading prior posts! The mention of body dysphoria, the acknowledgment that this is not my favorite question and why. This whole letter is why it’s not getting shoved in the “dumb question” section! It is do-able, everyone!

Now to the question because it actually sounds like a question that is transgender based. That’s an authentic question. And I’m gonna answer it right now!

Even for switching for transgendered purposes, it wouldn’t be a perfect solution because it’s not fixing a picture-perfect problem. Gender is fluid and gender identification can be tough. When a trans person is in pre-transistioning, they commonly feel like their body isn’t theirs, like it’s just a rental space they’re inhabiting. That makes sense to want body switching because it slides well with that kind of thinking and reasoning. They’re not switching because of fetish but because they want to feel like they’re in the “right” body of their true gender. That actually makes sense.

But here’s the thing about bodies: they’re unique. Even if body switching was done, there’s little bits and features everyone has that is specific to their body, from the allergies they have or the food they prefer. Even if you switched with your friend, who is also trans, chances are you would get on each other nerves with “You didn’t tell me your body does/n’t [xyz]!” I haven’t even brought up society yet because unless you two are coincidental twins, someone’s going to notice you’re not the same person they saw yesterday In any way, shape or form and the fallout won’t be fun.

In magick, things may be improbable but not impossible. However, this is also a “just because you can, doesn’t mean you should” thing, also. If anything, it would be best for you and your friend to focus on transitioning the normal, mundane way because regardless how you transition, it’s going to be quite an experience that will need some time to get used to. I recommend joining groups and communities for Transgendered people (I’m sure youtuber Kat Blaque has suggestions) so you can help with the dysphoria and talk with trusted, pro-trans therapists to help sort out your feelings. I found this site called Trans-Health, the online magazine for transpeople. I also found MyTransHealth, so you and your friend can find doctors that best suit you! I just googled “Trans Health”, I recommend doing the same, there’s a lot of sites to look at.

Hello, I’ve been looking through your blog but I can’t seem to find anything on this matter except for the body swap strike, however that’s not what I’m looking for (I also have a problem trusting people who want to swap bodies with their “friends”).

I don’t want a spell, because I don’t think I can refine my energy well enough to conduct one yet, but if you could point me in the direction (if I’ve missed an article or if you know a website that I’ve yet to find) I would appreciate that so much.

I’m looking for some way to replace my female anatomy with male anatomy. I want my body, hence why I don’t want a body swap, but I want to get rid of the female anatomy I have. I don’t know if you believe in the Greek gods, but I talk to Hermes and I’ve asked for his help, but I’m still trying to tune into the godphone…

Any advice is appreciated and honestly if it’s too much of a bother then please don’t worry, honest there are no hard feelings you’re probably busy.

Thank you for you time,

Max

Another question that references body swapping but I’m not razzing it. What these two have in common: being transgendered. That’s literally the only reason I’m not ripping into them. Being trans is not a fetish, it is a state of being and what real people actually are so they don’t deserved to get ripped into.

For everyone, Hermes/Mercury is a deity that is commonly used by trans and other queer Pagans as a patron deity because of various mythos (so is Aphrodite and Dionysus, and a group of others – here’s a short list and another one ). A “godphone” is a term in Pagan community that pretty much means being personally and individually in tune with the deities and communicating with them person-to-deity, like talking on a phone, hence the term “godphone”.

I just answered a transgendered person’s question above so I don’t want to give a copy-and-paste answer. Just like her and her friend, I recommended going to sites such as Trans Health and My TransHealth.

Hermes is a good deity to talk to, he’s pretty understanding. I’m sure Dionysus, the Greek patron god of transgender folks would like to hear from you as well. As well as Hermes’ kid, Hermaphroditus. And a slew of other deities. This, as well as working with doctors and pro-trans therapists should be the best bet as you progress along. I also suggest keeping a journal and doing meditations to help focus your mind will definitely help keep the godphone in tune.

I’ve been into magic when I was I kid and in my dreams, sometimes I can fly and a spell caster casted a lot of spells for me but it’s taking forever to get my package, what does that mean?

– Kashawnda C.

It could mean a multitude of things without more details, frankly. Flying refers to freedom, generally. It’s a very common dream, actually. Spellwork in dreams generally refer to transformation or restriction (because spells change things or sayings like “It’s like you’re under a spell”). Since it is something someone is doing for you and not on you, it seems that it’s more of a transformation/transition kind of thing and you’re receiving help. Chances are, in real life, you’re making changes and moves, with the help of others, and they seem promising but you’re possibly getting tired of waiting for the show of these changes to finally appear.

Recently 3 of the witches in our coven have become connected. We each have a spirit (which have all been seen by us before we told one another) and familiar(completed on the past full moon the 3rd witch got hers.. well it came and forced its self onto her). I am not sure what each of our spirits are signifying. I believe mine is a nature nymph. We all feel a event is coming but I can pin point what it is. My birthday is the nearest and it is a new moon. I will be turning 21 and I’m going to a town known for the supernatural. This was planned before this connection. It may have nothing to do with it but I felt I should include it. Do you know what is happening? Is it an event? Good or bad?

-Talynn L.

Familiars are generally animals that are help the witch bond and connect with their spellwork, so I’m hoping that “forced itself onto her” isn’t in the regular “she-didn’t-have-a-choice-one-way-or-the-other-and-it-was-frightful” type of way. Which would be bad.

Meditations are best to help you see and understand your spirits/entities. That and research on magickal entities because then you’ll understand better what you are dealing with.

As for big events, it’s hard to call if you’re right or not because the only way big events are known that aren’t immediately local, is through news. But if no one reports on it, it’s almost like it never happened. It’s like the “if a tree falls in the forest…” argument.

Now, for you becoming 21 (which, isn’t really noteworthy, astrologically. No usual natal major planet returns I can think of – the closest I can think of is Jupiter and that’s around age 24), going to a town known for the supernatural (this could be Salem, this could be New Orleans, this could be somewhere else. Either way, do not hijack any graveyard dirt from those locations, it happens too much) and it being a new moon (it refers to new beginnings but it isn’t a huge reset button or start button)… I think nothing of great general importance with happen. It might be an important trip for you but thaaaaaat’s about it. The world will keep revolving as it always does.

Now, here are the stupid ones:

These questions are categorized as such because the person did next to no research, just decided to send me an email without really thinking. It doesn’t really matter that I answered the question before, or wrote a whole column on the subject, and it was a rule breaker somehow. Here are the rules (in brief):

  • No asking for spell requests/pay for pray
  • I’m a witch, not a genie, don’t bug me with wishes, especially things like body switching and jinxes
  • Speaking of jinxes, I’m “Black Witch” because I’m a Black person practicing Paganism and Witchcraft (oh wow, such crypticness! Who could have guess? I mean I only reference it on the About Me page and literally everywhere all over the site and the stark lack of “left hand path” material), if you assume I call myself “Black Witch” because you couldn’t perceive the obvious from even a skim of reading, expect no sympathy

The rules are more in-depth around the usual “Ask Black Witch” submission portals but this is the gist.

Let’s get started! By category!

Body Switching:

Do you know how I can become a shape-shifter and be able to turn into anything

– Alexander Wilkins

Why do people keep asking me things like this? Despite the fact I have written time and time again about it

Confused for a Genie/Asking for Spell work

I’ve come across a very sh[*]t and harmful woman. I thought I would never turn to black magic or anything dark but I can’t wait for karma to hit her again. she needs a lesson learned asap

– donovan rodriguez

Ahhh, the usual “Thinks Black Witch practices black magick” bit. I need to start charging people every time they send me a letter stating that.. This was a looooooooong email chain so I’m not showing that but pretty much, this person is intensely spiteful but for some odd reason, is going to a witch instead of buying a gun or something (it’s the 21st century, everyone. I’m not a metaphysical hitman. Do your own dirty work). Here are some choice responses this guy decided to send me:

Just thought I’d come to you first because I don’t want to pay a black witch to do the spell but if I have to I will I guess 

So, this guy thought I’d go against my fairly well stated/easily found policy of no paid spellwork/spellwork for others and on top of that thought I would do it for free. Free. Maaaaan, I don’t think this guy is jinxed or harmed, he’s just reaping what he sows, which is douchebaggery.

At this point I don’t care about being cursed. after what she’s done to my mental health. so no I won’t stay away from magic. black witches are not hard to find since more and more women have taken interest in it. I just rather look for a skilled one 

Uh, if witches who practice the left hand path are not hard to find, then how’d he land on my site? And why do people gender things that aren’t gendered? Seriously? This guy is profoundly an idiot by my standards. Men and women practice various paths, including left hand path (actually, I’ve personally seen either more guys or something close to an equal gender split when it comes to left hand stuff).

I suggested a therapist because if your mental health is harmed, thaaaaat’s who you need to talk to. Just like if someone stabbed you, I’m going to suggest you talk to a doctor. I don’t think it gets any simpler than this. Y’see, when people get into magick for these reasons, that’s a problem.

The  for all I know you’re a scammer too with no real information in magic. yes there are dudes too but I’ve come across more women than men who practice it.  

I should charge people every time I hear that. I may call it the “Baby rattle defense” because when these folks don’t get what they want, they call me a scammer and other wild things because it’s a temper tantrum. Reminds me of when babies go “Waaaaah!” and shake their rattles in infant fury.

If I’m a scammer, then why am I refusing money as policy? The goal of a scam is to sheist someone out of their cash. That’s why the character “Joanne the Scammer” is always going around pretending to be people she’s not and taking things from others via deception or sneakiness. Granted, this dude said he wasn’t going to pay a dime, scammers generally block folks who say things like that because why hang around a dry well? Time is money to a scammer.

I always have folks who don’t know anything about magick telling me I don’t know anything (despite being cited in at least a couple academic books and taught a workshop) because I’m not providing any useful information…outside of what I have written and posted at length on a publicly-accessed website I’ve ran for almost ten years, complete with a search bar and category list.

This go-around goes on for quite a while so I can spare you all from the rest. It ends with the guy saying he found someone who will do his bidding (either a lie or he found an actual scammer and is being fiscally frisked because, well, a sucker is born every minute) and that’s that.

hi im [H] i some tme ago was serching for help from wiccas for true love spells and one told me me and shannon moore prince of punk embodyment of dilligaf a pro wrestler were soulmates and under a curse keeping us apzart if thats true can u or someone brake the curse for free all the info i can give u is im [redacted] born [redacted] on a monday at [redacted], in [2424 no house, no door] and shannon [redacted] moore born in [redacted] in [redacted] in the usa is all the info i can give you.i have no pictures no noting but what i just gave you.can u please help me? i love shannon moore with all my heart.please help me please n thank you.

– [H] L.

My initial response: “Holy moly, why?! Good gods of the holy divine above and below, what the [redacted]?! Holy [redacted] nuggets, why do people send me these [redacted] things?! Are they out of their [redacted][redacted] minds? [Redacted]!!!”

Why do people send me literally all their personal info? Holy crap, I think I could have gotten her social security card and bank account if I was nefarious. This is the second or third time I got something like this that I can think of.

Goodness gracious, I worked with enough famous people to know that when you’re around your favorites or they’re the subject, the logic part of your brain pulls out a newspaper and goes, “I’M ON BREAAAAAK.” It’s a thing that happens. And before anyone goes, “Oh my god, this person is freaking crazy”, think about the times you freaked out over anything, famous or not, and come back to read the rest of this post. This person isn’t mental or anything, just incredibly infatuated with a wrestling persona, it happens.

Also, for the record, I’m not Wiccan. I’m Pagan. Yes, there is a difference. You don’t assume every Christian you meet is Catholic, right? Apply same logic here.

In addition, this is Exhibit A to Z to Aa to Zz of whhhhhhhy love spells, especially “true love” spells can cause more problems than they are worth. And why you shouldn’t listen to every dink you meet on the internet. This is “you were Cleopatra in a past life” crossed with “Twilight” level of things. And judging from the writing, I’d say this person was a teen. And judging from pro-wrestling standards, I’d say this Shannon Moore person was an adult. And judging from those two probable facts, I’d say that would be a major problem at the outset. Among a metric crap ton of other things.

This is merely just regular fan obsession that, most likely, the person will grows out of. I usually post at least the first name but because I know this is going to be insanely cringe worthy for her when she gets older, I tried to redact and modify everything. I remember being a teenager and I have worked with fans tremendously over the years, it will happen.

General Stupidity/Severe lack of research

Do u know how to make a wish potion

– Jalana G. 

Christ, really? This could fall under “confused for a genie” but it sounds like they want to make it themselves (I could be wrong but that’s what I’m reading into this) so it’s going under “severe lack of research” because practically every book in Paganism/Intro to Witchcraft gives basic how-tos on potion making and more.

It would be perceived differently if she said “I’m working on a wish potion but some ingredients are hard to get, like [specific kind of rose parts], what do I do?” At this point, the person is showing some knowledge of what they’re doing, just a little stuck. That’s fine. Sounds a lot better than sounding like they want to be spoon-fed info because they have zero interest outside of what they’re doing. Granted, this question could be asked by a dabbler but, hey, at least they’re doing a little bit of leg work.

  1. can you turn me into a werewolf very night please
  2. can you please turn me into were dragon please
  3. can i have a real tiger tail growing on my butt please as a friend
  4. or can you fix my computer from cookes and vireses please

– Sara McVicker

These four, separate, moronic questions were given to me between March and September by Sarah McVicker, a young person who, according to what I found, lives in Monroeville, PA that calls herself a professional artist, coupled with an empty portfolio DeviantArt. She likes watching Markiplier and JackSepticEye and has a loooooooooot of spare time that should be better used on her studies and not bothering random people on the internet.

Everyone, please remember I’m a person. With an extremely low threshold for bullsh*t. As in, you’d need an oil driller and radar to find it. And a background in research, including digital research. I understand it’s fun in theory to bother me but get too far with it, and I do get vicious. Heck, I still remember when I doxxed a Bible thumper that tried to be a hateful douche on here (also was from Pennsylvania, but a different part, I think). The reason I’m not dumping her schooling information, home address and more is because I haven’t heard from the kiddo in a while. On top of that, she’s a kid. Telling the internet is bad but I’m sure a personal phone call and conversation to the parents might be worse. However, if she decides to start right back up again, I’m sure her parents are gonna love to hear what their kid is up to when they don’t monitor her activity on the internet.

DO YOU KNOW HOW to call a vampire and if you do, can you tell me how LIKE WITH instructions?thanks!

– Merissa

These are the questions I get in my inbox. Why do these folks exist? Even with my usual snippy ways and saying “Lolz, American education in action, everyone” this is beyond that level of stupid. I don’t care if it is trolling, it’s just not bright. I like acting stupid sometimes but I don’t do it on other people’s spaces.

I can control the weather, and move stuff with my mind. And sometimes my dreams come true. What am I.

– Dylan S.

Don’t know. Don’t care. I’d treat the question better if it were framed better.

Hi i have a question im hoping you can answer ive ask this to others and either they dont never respond back or they just have no answer. Its about theses popular love hoodoo oils being sold ill like the recipe or just what exactly herbs oils and curios would go into them or what oils and herbs and curios to to use to receive the type of attention from the one you desire or admire from a distant. I like preparing and making my own oils better to buying from others to put all my intention placed in. My question is what are the recipes for these oils such as LICK ME ALL OVER OIL which incites Desires, Passion, Seduction, Control,LOTTERY WINNER OIL ,MAKE HIM MINE OIL – Control, Commanding, Passion,THINK OF ME Potion Ritual Oil Anointing Oil,Talk To Me Oil and the Man Trap Oil,.

– Ruby Gem

The actual question in this block o’ text: what are the recipes for these various hoodoo and voodoo oils because the person wants to replicate them instead of buying them.<

There’s probably a range of reason why this person doesn’t hear back from others, I haven’t much clue. However, I don’t really care much for those oils because they seem snake-oil-y to me. This doesn’t mean that concoctions in Voodun and Hoodoo aren’t legit, I’m just saying these commercialized versions are a bit odd to me. Part of it are the names (“Man trap oil”? That’s just…no) and the supposed intent (“control” popped up twice, that’s a problem). For all I know, these bottles are filled with Crisco, random sidewalk pebbles and Italian seasoning.

Here’s some Facebook messenger questions. I am very accessible on the Black Witch fan page. Heck, I have a 100% response time and take around nine minutes to reply. I’m trying to get that little green logo that shows I’m really quick and swift with responding, aw yiiiiiis.

hi how can i become a black magic practitioner

– Sanu Francis

My FB response: Read books? I don’t practice negative magick in particular so that’s my best suggestion

I’ve got nothing to expand on that. Frankly, I don’t practice the left hand path…at all. It’s not my fault if people don’t want to even do the slightest bit of research. Durr.

Hello, I don’t no if this is the ryt place but I am lookin into a black magic spell to get my ex back I want him back badly but he seems happy with his new girlfriend, but he made me so happy, I want him back

– Donna Chapman

This is incredibly awful for the most obvious reason: it’s abuse via controlling, plain and simple. This person doesn’t love her ex, she just wants to make him freaking miserable. She’s upset that he’s making his new flame happy, how she used to have that and now wants it back after the relationship already fell off a cliff for whatever reason. It has completely nothing to do with the ex personally, just that she felt good when he was her’s.

If the ex seems happy with the new gf…leave him alone. It may hurt to hear this but it’s over. You’re out, she’s in. Regardless of what the break up was for. And just from this small intro of a message, it seems like he made a good choice getting away and finding someone new and hopefully far less controlling.

The “ryt” place for her would be in front of a therapist to work out her feelings of controlling others and tendency to abuse and be dominating. This is no different when a guy contacted me on Facebook asking for the same thing.

My concern is my younger brother David. He’s a bane in my side, he gives me nothing but heartache and aggravation. I want to know if you could put a spell on him, so he can suffer as he makes me suffer?

– Rose G.

Why do people never do research? I usually state over and over that I don’t do spellwork for others, on others, about anything. Especially for negative reasons.

If he was abusing you, then I would have simply suggested mundane/non-magickal things like how to separate yourself, etc etc. If he’s just being a pain in your side, then you’re going to have to grow a spine and confront him or deal with it instead of bothering other people to solve your problem.

Or go Greek mythos with it: try to poison him or something. I mean, geez, it’s your family, it’s your problem. Maybe try growing a backbone, that would probably be better suited for your issue. Don’t like being a big sister? Complain to mommy and daddy or steel up and deal with it head on.

I got a couple more but they’re pretty small ones and one that basically warrants its own post but that’s it, I’ve caught up from basically super late July to now in February. Hurrah.

It’s time to get into another bit of “Ask Black Witch”! Let’s get started

Hey my name is Mike. my question is how did you get into witchcraft? I know that’s a general question, but maybe if I tell you more about me you’ll understand what I want to know. I was born in Georgia, but I was raised in the Bronx. I grew up Baptist, and really got into being a Christian and knowing Jesus at 23. But I grew up with comic books, so I always believed in science and magic. Then I saw hidden colors and after doing research, figured I should not be a Christian. But I still love the man that was Jesus because he’s helped me through my entire life. I know you tired of reading, but bear with me. I denounced religion and don’t really see the point in any of them. Now I just believe in God, and the truth that he is everywhere, in everything, and became even greater when I let go of religion. Now, there are occult forces controlling our world, and I would like to get familiar with these forces, but not stick my hand in the wrong dark hole. I never said that out loud, it sounds crazy but I’ma send it anyway. So my question, how did you first get into magic?

– Mike W.

I was raised Christian myself but then converted over to Paganism around 15 years old so I get what you’re saying. I got into magick mainly by researching and reading a lot of books and thinking about aplenty. I first read Where to Park Your Broomstick by Lauren Manoy and kind of went from there. I always could see and sense things so I decided to follow that along. Of course, I went through my “Everything is from the devil and eeeeeeeevil. Magick is eeeeeeeevil” phase but got out of that because I simply wasn’t digging Christianity and the rhetoric just didn’t make sense.

If you’re still into Christianity (or just strictly Jesus), there’s always Christian occultism because if Christianity has a load of, it would be occultic backgrounds. I think there are definitely books on the subject (well buried, especially online), particularly if you look under “Christian Gnosticism” and “Esoteric Christianity”. This would definitely be the strong point of a friend of mine who practiced Christian Occultism so stay tuned to this post for an update.

 

Can you make me a witch with lots of powers please

– Jalana G.

Honestly, when I read this, I just thought, Oh, here we go. Because I’ve been dealing with a spate of people asking frank questions like these. My response:

It’s called “read and research like everybody else”

I know, snippy. But like I said, I’ve been dealing with a run of folks asking me something along the lines of “make me powerful”. It gets old on the receiving side.

But what do I research I’m a teen and don’t know what to search

 See, she would have save herself some snip from me if she mentioned that in the initial letter. Either way, that is a relatively easy answer.

I’ve recommended books here on Black Witch, I think I even have a tag for it. The best book I can suggest a teen (or anyone) to read is Where to Park Your Broomstick by Lauren Manoy. Her and anything by Ellen Dugan, they’re both great writers for starters in magick.

The reader also asked:

Does it take a long time to become a witch with powers?

Long story short, yep. Firstly, real life isn’t Charmed or True Blood. You’re not going to really get the same experience that tv shows you. So no sparkles shooting out of your fingertips shall be promised. However, this doesn’t mean that magick in its, well, magical sense isn’t real. It’s just going to take a lot of work. And reading. And thinking. And mistakes. And so on and so forth. It’s not going to be an overnight thing, at all. Otherwise, everyone would be a witch if it were that cheap and easy.

 

That’s all for this month! See you next month. Or at Otakon or something.

I have dipped and dabbled in Wicca for the past two years. Then, I fell off the planet for a while due to life changes. I am intending to do a love spell or one that will bring me a long-term relationship. Basically, I’m ready to ask for the One, but am a little conflicted on how to go about this. Any feedback would be greatly appreciated!

My response:

I’ll touch on this during Ask Black Witch but here’s the short answer to tide you over: love spells like those are waaaay more trouble than they’re worth. Nothing wrong with a “I want a date” spell but “I want a long term relationship” spell is major sticky.

So, just use pink candles and ask for a hot, sexy date–one that I can live with?

I put out two love spells last year, and a wave of guys from my past came back. Mostly unavailable men and I was fearful that i had done something wrong. Mind you, I did not ask for these specific men.

But, appreciate your feedback. 

Yeeeeah, the result you got is usually the result you’ll get. The universe likes to troll. I’ll go more in depth on ABW. I’d put the candles aside ’til then.

i know you wrote you would go more in depth on abw, but do you have any date spell resources?

Newp.

I take that as a no. 

Just for clarification, I am not seeking to mooch like a Salem witch, or trying to get something for nothing here. There isn’t a community of Black witches where I live and often i’m at the mercy of whites who run metaphysical shops in my city. I get mixed messages from them on how to do love spells and with what tools–hence i thought i’d ask you.

Another thing that I thought i’d mention is that the last love spell with a seven day candle that i did–a “magikal” thing happened, or more likely just a coincidence. The very evening it finished burning, I got a text message from this really hot guy i had met a month before that i didn’t think we were really compatible. Needless to say, I never heard from him again and my wicked Quija board (that i have since grown out of and tossed) kept spelling that I should marry him. Sometimes things get a bit wacky.

Anyhoo, I look forward to hanging out at your blog more if you don’t mind that.

Thank you.

– Keisha M

Alright then, here’s the short part: love spells are a loooooooooot more trouble than it is worth.

Lot more.

Liiiiiiiiike, there are exponentially more things that could go wrong than right.

Because the universe likes to troll people.

Exhibit A to ∞

Pictured: Exhibit A to ∞

I guess it’s because humans think quite highly of themselves and it’s the universe’s way of saying “Lolz, nah. Lemme show you how.”

Either way, you ask the universe for a long term relationship, it may plink a chinchilla with an anxiety disorder right in your lap because, there ya go, long term relationship. It’s cute, it’s fluffy, it has abandonment issues like a jack-in-the-box loaded with fireworks and can be clingy. And a long life expectancy, bonus! Give it a twitter account and it’s practically a person!

You could literally tell the universe, “No chinchilla with baggage, human male. Human male for me to have a loving, long term relationship with. No tricks, no gags. Just someone who suits me fine.”

The universe could send you this dude…and they’ll be on the other side of the earth. Everything you ever wanted, just very faaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaar away.

If you’re feeling conflicted, it’s probably the universe hitting you with a clue-by-four going “It’s probably feeling a little like a bad idea because it is.” And they’re right. I can tell you from experience, you’re really gonna be spending the majority of your time keeping Kleenex’s finance stocks good and buoyant rather than be with the guy of your dreams. (If you go “yeah, that won’t happen to me”, there’s a lot of stories of where love spells, prayers and rituals go from “well-intentioned” to “Pearl Harbor”). Nothing is wrong with a small spell using a pink candle and rose oil to get a date but doing extensive, full-on spells for a long term relationship? That could easily blow up in your face royally.

How could this go passionately wrong? Let’s break down the ways:

Your life will always be in change
The person you are now is not going to be the person you will be a month from now, or a year. To ask for a person to be by your side in the here and now doesn’t mean that the person brilliant for you now will be just the right type for you in six months. (Lordt, I sound like a parent.) Using magick to bring someone to you so acutely is going to have flaws that you couldn’t imagine. You want someone who will grow with you, not someone who will be for the “now” you.

You’ll get what you’ll ask for, just not what you want
You already said you’ve tried your hand at love spells and gotten a lot of duds. Yeeeeeeeap. Sounds about right. Actually, the story you mentioned, it would usually have a “stalker” part so if you didn’t get that kind of guy, hooray because stalkers are scary. Remember, universe likes to troll. Or you do meet the One and he’s already unhappily married with kids and a dog. (Also, for the love of the gods, do not be an adultress. The universe may troll but if you play sidechick, you’re just trolling yourself.)

You’re gonna be biased and miss the shot
Say the universe goes, “Ok, here, no strings. This dude is yours.” But you somehow miss on this because either he’s not what you consider attractive or interesting. The dude is very much the kind of person you need but, honestly, you have no reason in your head why you’re staring at this guy. Your own biases could get in the way.

Control
Kinda bringing “the One” to you because you want it is a bit one-sided, don’t you think? I mean, you may be ready but what about the dude? Maybe you have it together but what if this guy still is attempting to get at least 1/34th of his sh*t together? The dude is a heck of a catch, just got his life everywhere in a way that could be off-putting. Even if you think “Oh that won’t matter, we all have our problems”, you should be reminded that when you finally meet “the One”, he’s not going to have a neon sign blinking over his head saying, “This One, Stupid.” Maaaaaaaaaan, would life be easy if that were the case. But it’s not. So instead, you wouldn’t really have a way of knowing that you just met the One, versus meeting Just Another Frog.

I’m sure the dude you’re supposed to be with is just as eager to meet you as you are him. However, the best way to do it, right now, is to keep working on yourself, keep putting yourself out there and getting to know yourself more so you can figure out what kind of guy would really suit you. Feel free to do spells to get nice dates but remember, it takes more than magick to find love.

 

Tips for newbies? Blog is lovely btw.
– Hoodblipster

Read academic books as well as metaphysics books. Don’t buy every little thing in sight…also, you’re going to buy every little thing in sight, even if you didn’t need it.

Stay away from dimestore books and if you can’t, just distance yourself from the rhetoric. Like, you’re gonna hear nonsense about Illuminati, Egypt, and a loooot of bad, junk science. Try not to buy into that. If it seems to rag on one group of people, such as Jews or Black folks, then it’s probably best to avoid.

Speaking of science: metaphysics and science does not always get along. However, as you look up metaphyics, science is very useful but don’t take every little thing science thinks as automatic law. Seriously, remember that most of science has a looooot of biases (*koff*look at their hiring by race and gender*koff*) so be sure to be mindful. Just be open minded.

Basically, read up on your history, your science and try to keep up with your BoS or DoS as you learn.

Also, doing magick is going to take work. Keep up on meditation and energy manipulation.

Hey there, do you know where I should start with learning about Wiccan charms and spells and such? I feel like I need to guard myself against ne’r-do-wells wishing me turmoil and bad luck. You were the first person I thought about.
– Maya

Actually, there really aren’t anything called “Wiccan” charms and spells, honestly, because Wicca pulls from so many different cultures there’s nothing really that is a Wiccan charm – as in, it spurred from Wicca (which started in 1957) and wasn’t heavily meld or borrowed from another culture. However! There are plenty of charms and magick for protective reasons. Almost every book on magick is going to have something on protection. I really recommend anything Ellen Dugan, she’s a great writer with simple and effective charms and spells, especially for protection and to remove negative influence. I remember a lemon spell that she had in the Elements of Witchcraft book, it was pretty nice and simple.

Another person I suggest is Lauren Manoy because of her book, Where to Park Your Broomstick because it’s great for those who are new and is very well versed and informative.


 

Here is a picture of my cat:

There's a reason why my mom calls her

There’s a reason why my mom calls her “pukey”. Her actual name is Madison. And she’s also nicknamed “Binky” (because of Jar Jar Binks) by my mom, because she thought the cat was stupid and everyone objected to her idea of naming the cat “Stupid”. And yes, she’s fat. I want to buy her a kitty treadmill one day.

There really isn’t much to say. Like I said earlier, I do now have my car back but to pay for the $5000 bill, I had to cut therapy for my trauma disorders because the money had to come from somewhere. I’m really not happy about this because it’s kind of important that I get regular treatment for my trauma disorders to keep them in check.

Because I’m really determined to get therapy back up and going, that means I will be more busy and I may reopen the BW Shoppe way eariler than planned and there will be new stuff once I get living situation taken care of. I seriously don’t know how any of this stuff will work out but, yeah. To be fair, I really haven’t a clue. However, BW will still keep running. I did like the Facebook fan page livestreams and the 6 year anniversary of Black Witch is on June 9th, where I always would do a live stream so I’ll probably do a livestream on June 9th at about 7:30 PM EST via Facebook. Yeah, that sounds about fitting. Details coming soon!

Hi so I met this guy called Guy McGee* through a Youtube channel, I know bad and he only has like 10 videos and they are all Music because he is in a band and he plays the drums but the first time I saw him I couldn’t take my eyes off him so we then became friends on Snapchat and then Facebook.
But we spoke once and I felt a real connection to him and I don’t wanna tell him coz he’ll think I’m weird but also he lives in a different country as well and I really wanna know there is anyway that he feels the same???? Plus if there is anyway that we will talk more??? and if there is anyway that we will become friends or more????

This has been playing on my mind for a long time and it has been driving me crazy I didn’t wanna it was past life even though it could be and I know this a lot but I would really love it if you could answer them. So thank you for reading it even if you do think Im crazy. 🙂

Hi so long story short I met this guy Called Dude McGee* he’s 18 and lives in America and I’m 17 and l live in the UK we have spoken once before. And I have had the odd message every now and then but I really like him and I don’t think he feels the same. I have had fights with friends and over this and lost my bested friend because of it. The main reason because I didn’t tell her. But he’s on my mind nearly every second of the day and I don’t know what to do. So if you could help I’d really appreciate it. 🙂

I forgot to say that he’s a lead singer in a band and I know it sounds bad and its meant to be that way but I feel like I met him before as well like in a past life and I feel in way drawn to him it’s probably my mind playing tricks bit that’s how I feel and I find it hard to explain

Hello I have a development to my concern he has started to talking to my friend a lot and he was the first one to pop up. So maybe he wasn’t for me but I have liked him for ages but she had a boyfriend but I have no clue what to do

– Genni M.

Firstly, the (*) is to imply that I’ve changed the name. Granted, the guy in reference had two different first names but the same last name so I replicated that. Also, this was a series of emails that basically tell a bigger story, thus I lumped them all together.

Alright, the basics of the story is that the person writing in likes a dude(we’re assuming it’s just one guy) who she has a crush on despite being far, far away. It really eats at her and even gets in the way of her friendships. Now it seems the apple of her eye has been chatting with her friend, who also has a boyfriend.

Now, I wasn’t really willing to do divination because I only do that around Halloween for the Samhain Pickers sweepstakes winners. Besides, this situation didn’t seem to need it.

One thing kiddo has to keep in mind is that just because you get to chat with musicians on the internet, they’re there to promote so of course, they’re gonna bring the charm because it’s good for business. However, this doesn’t mean they’re not people.

Granted, I said maybe she should have a sit-down talk with the guy she has a very apparent crush on but it can also been said this way as well: she’s reading too much into their interactions. Which isn’t insanity, it’s simply having a crush. That’s completely normal and natural, even if it makes you feel absolutely mental. Everyone goes through that.

However, if your infatuation is starting to dent your friendships, it’s time to pump the breaks. Firstly, it appears that you don’t seem to know where you stand with the guy you like. It’s important to discuss that and get on the same page with the guy so you know how each other feels. That should precede everything because it will determine all future interactions, good or bad. Just because the friend is talking to the guy doesn’t mean they’re hitching up…especially if they’re separated by a whole ocean.

I think the infatuation is coloring your perspective. It’s time to find some stable ground and have a chit chat to find out what is happening. Talk with not only him but talk with your friends as well because I’m sure they probably are fussing with you because of how much your crush is blinding you and your better sensibilities and they want the pre-crush you back.

I’m really interested in witchcraft but idk where to start. how did you start?

– reinadelaslesbianas

I started with books, really. My first book is Where to Park Your Broomstick by Lauren Manoy. I thoroughly enjoy and always suggest because of how well-rounded it is. That will give you a great starting place of what to do, what not to do and why.

I was wondering are you familiar with black witch’s b/c I have some questions about it if you could help me……I tried asking the church of god and they said to stop doing witchcraft and I laughed and hung up the phone…..I tried asking the church of satan hq in America and I guessed they were mad when I said demonic spirits…lol….they preached satan and said to join their church…..so can you maybe answer some of my questions…….jim

 ok here’s my question but it’s a story….I can provide details of everything if you want them……I’m a black witch….I used a spell to have someone die and he did in 1 week….since I was 4 I have seen demonic spirits and ghosts….I have been seeing spirits of dead people,animals,insects all my life….I want to know why I can see them…..also when I practice withcraft outside between 9 and 9:30pm a glowing white ring appears in the sky(kinda far away too) while I’m doing my chanting…the ring goes away when I stop chanting….also I tried spells between 7 and 7:30pm and a gray ring appears in the sky and goes away when I stop chanting…..I want to know what this means…do I have a special gift spiritually….please help me or know someone that can help me…..

– James C.

Goodness, why do people write as if they are breathless? Fantastic for stories, not so much for letters.

As a reminder to people, I call myself “Black Witch” because I’m a Black person that practices witchcraft. Not, “I practice left-hand magick” so I’m not a pro in that field if that’s what the question is in reference to. Continuing on, it seems you just simply are clairvoyant and really intuitive to sense and interact with entities around you. Not really a big deal, no great significance in my consideration. You just can do these things, hurray. I’d say “don’t kill people” but I don’t know the circumstances so I’ll just say instead that it’s primarily frowned upon ethically so use very strong discretion. I also don’t know if the magick killed the person and it isn’t coincidence but this letter isn’t really to contest that.

You gave me times but without timezones, so I haven’t much of a clue what the phenomena you’re describing is in reference to. It could be raised energy, it could be a better second sight, that I don’t know. Either way, you seem relatively gifted. I would recommend reading some decent theory books on energy manipulation. That could help as well.

EEOC Update: Surprisingly quiet for once. Last time everything was getting this quiet, my apartment got raided and trashed by the Baltimore City Police.

Onwards to the column!

It’s Ask Black Witch, where readers send me questions. Good questions are appreciated, bad questions are eviscerated, let’s get started:

Hey, I have dreamed before about an old lady who gave me the book of shadows and told me to read it and I remember me doing a lot of spells and go through the book, and I have never ever seen the book or even touched it and on every page of the book there were a lot of pentagrams, and till now I still don’t remember the face of the old lady, So what is that supposed to mean?

– ­Amira A.

Alright, unfortunately, I didn’t get more info than just this sole letter (it’s semi my fault because I didn’t do the usual “write back to person to get more info”, I just replied to her comment where she first posted this question) so I can’t really make any major definites. For example:

  • Have you ever had a background in studying Paganism and/or witchcraft?
  • Did you watch a scary movie or such before sleeping?
  • What culture are you from?

Etc, etc, stuff like that. Otherwise, I would just simply rule it as the mind just putting a movie on as you sleep, so to speak. Not everything in dreams mean some big and major thing. Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.

The fact the book didn’t have any writing, just pentagrams, kind of means your brain was trying to scare you a bit, it doesn’t 100% have to mean the unknown because while the pentagram is an occultic symbol, it isn’t inherently spooky and evil. Just seen that way due to Abrahamic (Christianity, Judaism, Islam) cultural beliefs we all live with.

Basically, it could be an anxiety dream with a fear of the unknown buuuuuuut it could also just be a regular dream that’s really, really weird…because brains are weird.

Alright, time to go back to relatively normal things. I’m still going through my EEOC situation and definitely will try to modify donation so it won’t be via YouCaring but something a little more for the long term because I don’t feel right by keeping it up when I’m sure there’s an alternative.

“In the Pagan community I interact with (which is mostly white), conversations often revolve around trying to figure out which of the European ethnic groups a person descends from is the one he/she/ze feels the most connected to, or identifies the most with, in order to pick out which flavor of ethnic Paganism (Germanic/Irish/etc.) to practice. I pointed out that this was a part of white privilege, from not having been subjected to the ethnocide of slavery, and that African-Americans didn’t have the luxury of picking out which ethnic group they feel like the most. One responder said that all African-Americans had to do was take a genetic test to determine which ethnic group they’re descended from, and make a pagan religion based on that.

So, that is making me ask: have you ever asked yourself, “should I take a DNA test to determine where my family came from to figure out which religion to practice?” Has this question ever come up in conversations you’ve been a part of? Is this subject important to the Pagan community you belong to?”

– T.T.R. 

Dude, the best you can do is just find another community and be off. Honestly, you sound like you’re hanging with SS sympathizers, Aryan wannabes and Trump’s voting bloc.

And you’re right, it is part of White privilege to be able to go up and down the family tree and know who you were related to several centuries ago. While I’m sure other folks may go, “Hey, Asian American folks can trace back their family lines centuries and they’re not White!” but here’s the thing: they’re not seen as the yardstick of “this is a human” and we’re not even reaching into exclusion acts, separations of families, etc. It’s not the same.

Black families can’t really trace back further than their great grandparent without outside help because of the drastic effects of chattel slavery where Black people were bought, sold, murdered and traded like animals. And then you have to throw in lynchings, which, like police-related murders, aren’t well tracked and traced so there’s a not-so-mysterious vortex that makes missing people because not every brutal murder started with an iconic burning cross. It’s as simple as a kid walking to a library on an open road and a group of White people spotting them and going “Let’s kill ’em.” White folks don’t have boughs of broken branches littered throughout their family trees annnnnnnnd they’re collectively the reason why.

Maybe you should suggest the suggester take a DNA test…which, by the by, costs money, time and isn’t completely accurate without heavy searching on your part. How do I know this? I worked in the Library of Congress, we have countless data on people but it slims up dramatically the darker the people get.

And it’s not the same as how White people learn about their families. If the person was German, ask if they would like to only be able to learn about who their family is strictly through Holocaust records because, without fishing deep through some of the worst experiences of history, they wouldn’t they know anything beyond their parent or grandparent because the test they paid hundreds for only tells them they’re of whatever percentage that they are. Those tests don’t really give names and experiences that are the same as what an aunt or elder could share. And these tests have to rely on submitted (and accepted) history… which, by the way, can be burned, erased via genocide – or near genocide -, rejected/destroyed due to colonization and systematic bigotry (also known as, “The institution of academia can look very easily like a Klan member armed with a dictionary, white-out and an over active imagination”). There’s a bunch of data missing from history due to douchebags. Useful history that an elder would be more likely to know than the Library of Congress. Because it’s about your family in all its oddities, something books and datasheets gloss over.

Books and sheets won’t tell you about how your great great great great great cousin was a chicken thief but your great great great great grandpop made things right by running a community bank and food pantry that helped everyone flourish because he had the right knack for figuring out exactly when to plant and fish. Or that really dumb thing that your 13X great relative did that wound up creating a law that still exists to this present day because when your relative pranked people, they always went big… which somehow floated down the family line and now shows via a niece having a “social experiment/prank” channel on Youtube that occasionally goes viral because pastel-dyed skunks released in City Hall was a funny idea to her. But not so much to the mayor and council members, who may pass a small ordinance over this. You know, the little bits of history that a DNA test forgets. So, again, that was a dumb suggestion.

Oh, and here’s another reason why it’s dumb: because if you’re Black, you have to find who owned your family and hope they kept good records because that’s not a promise either. And it’s gonna be depressing.  Like, discovering your great, great, great aunt had their eyes burnt out with acid and fire and then lashed and lynched for simply being caught with a book since she wanted to learn how to read at the age of 45. Or how splintered your family was because of how often they got sold…or used as alligator bait.

And we do have indigenous faiths that stem from African beliefs: Santeria, Voudon, Hoodoo, Igbo, Maasai, etc etc etc. Duh.

Now, that’s already good and done. No need a DNA test for that. And is that person 100% German? 100% Anglo? 100% Welsh? 100% Scotts? Given that they’re American, I’m gonna ballpark that’s a “no”. Like, if that’s how they feel, I’m sure they can go back to Europe to be as true as possible; they’re not even on the right continent, let alone in the right country. But they’re going to need a magical blood separator to divide all those flavors of mayo they are if they want to be full-force, “Hitler would be proud, totes gonna vote for Trump” about it. I wonder what genetic test they took to figure out what branch of Paganism they’re going to follow. I mean, they sound like they probably couldn’t pass a literacy test so I’m sure they were none too bright to consider that.

Have I ever thought, “I should get a DNA test because I hang around neo-Nazis so I have something to tell them?” No. Why? It’s dumb and they aren’t showing me their files first so why should I have to take a test on my genetics? So they know exactly what patches to give me?

I didn’t have to figure out what part of my family came from where to figure out what version of Paganism to practice. Hey, even Christianity doesn’t have such a threshold…as well as other religions. Because it’s ridiculous. This sounds so Aryan, it’s moronic. This subject isn’t very important to any Pagan community I want to belong to. The Pagan community in the Western world is already racist enough, we don’t need people who take that hate to the next level.

Find other people to hang with, these people are eventually going to do something worse than just chat religious-flavored eugenics. And you’re not going to get a burning cross or spray-painted swastika as a warning.

Good afternoon . My name is Jasmine. I’ve read your blog a few times and I love your self expression and openness . I have been interested in paganism for sometime ..I just don’t know where to start..I would like to become a witch but not a wiccan. I really like like idea of hoodoo but im not looking to conjure up anything. I really just want to feel connected to nature and in tune with myself. I also want to master meditation,  enhance my intiuation and maybe get a glimpse of the spirit world. I was raised in am extremely Christian household but those beliefs were never something that I could truly embrace. I basically felt nothing but fear to be honest.  Now that all of my fears are behind me I am so ready to learn and research but I really don’t know where to start. I’ve done tons of Googling . I am sorry if this sounds silly or offensive ..it is hard for me to explain myself through the internet. I appreciate your time.

-Jasmine

Hoodoo is nice, and you don’t have to summon anything. It can simply be ancestor work and still using the spirits and entities for basic and advanced magick work. Hoodoo, in short, is like any other traditional form of folk magick, use as appropriate.

To work with mediation, it can seem super easy but, in our fast-paced world, it can seem drastically difficult. I recommend learning breathing exercises to get a start on meditation. It’s great to learn to do and improve energy manipulation, which is great for magick work. Thankfully, there are now apps to help you learn meditation, as well as books. Starting with books, I always recommend Where to Park Your Broomstick by Lauren Manoy. As for apps, I recommend Intellicare’s free app called “Purple Chill”. It has a very effective bit for deep breathing, which is fantastic to learn to get a great start for meditation.

The main layout looks like this:

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The deep breathing has a small, lavender orb that expands slowly and retracts slowly, helping you maintain breathing at a steady pace. The rest is just as useful.

As for boosting intuition, that’s definitely work but I recommend Intuition Magick by Linda Keen and Everyday Magic by Vivianne Crowley. They’re great for helping learn how to better your intuitive sense and safely.

If you want to get a good look into the spirit world, you want to know what you’re doing so I would hold off on more advanced practices until you’re better at knowing yourself and your practice. Start off with doing ancestry work and build on that. Working with spirits means you never know what you’re going to get, even if you’re well practiced. I mistakenly summoned a Throne angel when I was 17. That was an experience I don’t want to experience twice, ha!

Once you do get a little further into spirit work, when you get a better hand in it, it’s best to get an encyclopedia on spirits and entities. I’ve suggested a number of books here, in The Arts: Samhain Edition, that can totally help you.

 

Alright, that’s really all I’m getting into today. However, I noticed I’m getting a lot of “body switching” spell requests. I’ll be writing on this at length but for now, I don’t do spell requests. I definitely don’t do body switches, I don’t even know why people bother me about it because I never ever talk about doing spells for others (or there would be a price list). Instead, anyone who asks is pretty much opening themselves up for absolute ridicule.

See y’all next year!

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Huzzah, it is Ask Black Witch, where you ask me questions and I answer ‘em! Basic rule is “good questions are appreciated, bad questions are eviscerated”. Since I was gone for a super long time, that means a lot of questions piled up. I’m going to start with the most recent and work my way back. That way, I keep up with questions. These questions are mainly coming from Tumblr and the Ask Black Witch submission box.

Also, it’s the holidays, I really am probably gonna derp on a few questions.

Do you have any suggested reading material?

– MartianKid

Recently and for the metaphysics? No. To be honest, I’ve been scoping out books and materials but in physical form, it’s really, really lacking. Either it’s basically the same info regurgitated over and over with a new shiny book cover or it’s some lame 101 book that’s clearly directed either toward White teens or their housewife moms. Or a combo. And usually with some cultural appropriation (chakras, smudging, voodoo) thrown in for good measure.

Honestly, it would be best to look at the more academic books about these subjects because Pagan writers simply are lacking. Although, academic writers are not perfect either, there’s a lot of biased information in academic writing due to the field and the publishing houses that function in it pretty much holding the same gatekeeping standards as the Ku Klux Klan – White gaze, Male gaze, Western standards always at the center somehow and everyone else goes under a microscope to be coldly examined into bits. This would take a lot of study to make sure you’re getting an objective learning that benefits you versus just learning a lot of academeized prejudices displayed as inarguable fact.

The issue is, because these fields have next to no diversity in voice and perspective (5 White, male writers on the subject of Native American smudging is not diversity & tokenization is not diversity, either) due to how they constructed themselves, there’s a lot of research that will be needed on your part. I know, I know, for a field that claims to be overflowing with smarties, eggheads and geniuses, they’re pretty freaking stupid about getting tripped up over basic and small things like race and gender. Make sure the books you read have diverse authors as well.

I already have books I have referenced a few times in the past in the Resources and Information category. They’re very decent, especially for spell work and the groundwork of such. Academic books are really sucky about that, obviously.

I’m a teen interested in Wicca, especially Dianic Wicca. What god or goddess do we worship and I’m afraid to tell my parents that I’m interested in Wicca since they’re Christians.

– Nicole M.

First thing first, it wouldn’t be “we”, it would be “they” because I’m neither Dianic or Wiccan. The Dianic Wiccans pray to, well, Diana, the Roman goddess of the moon, childbirth and the hunt.

It would be best to gauge your parents’ reactions. I didn’t really tell my parents for a long time and, frankly, I got outed (after I moved out, but still, got outed). If they are severely “Anyone who doesn’t believe what I believe is going straight to Hell”, I wouldn’t expect they would have a sudden turnaround when their own child needs them to.

This means you may have to warm them up to the idea of the fact that different religions exist and are still just as valid as theirs. However, if you still live with them underneath their roof, you’re going to have to be very cautious because the last you need is to be kicked out and forced homeless as a result of your parents showing “Christian love and mercy”. Remember, religious privilege, like any privilege, is very good at making people bend logic and go Pompeii over little things. This means you can still test the waters but be safe about it such as talk about people with different faiths (not all the time or they’ll pick up) and hear how they feel. If they think Christianity is the only way or that Pagans are just crazy White people just being crazy, that means you may have to practice in secret until you move out.

If you don’t live with them, you can still warm it up to them with time. The upshot is that you don’t have to worry about homelessness, just people being potentially upset. Remind them that A) this is not a dig at your family history or heritage, you still appreciate it B) it’s not a phase no more than them being Christian is a phase C) This doesn’t mean you hate Christians now, the religion simply didn’t work for you because of your own individual feelings and beliefs and D) they can either have you or their bigotry, but they can’t have both, so choose. (And bigotry won’t take care of them when they’re old and decrepit. Nor send them family pictures. Nor help them carve the turkey during the holidays). Without the risks of your livelihood and safety being diminished, it’s up to you on how to warm up your folks to Dianic Wicca but don’t expect any overnight changes. I would suggest easing them into it with passive mentions to it (“I’m going to be doing something for Yule, I hope it doesn’t snow badly this year like last time”) and bringing them back to center calmly if they start to be dismissive of the religion.

Even if they want to put in work to get to know and understand your religious faith, still don’t expect any overnight changes. Learning takes time. They’re going to be super uncomfortable that so many changes are happening all at once, it may take a while that you changing religions is not a person diss against them as parents and that you’re not an evil person now that you left Christianity. Actually, if they do believe that non-Christian=evil, feel free to present a picture of Donald Trump, the Ku Klux Klan, Adolf Hitler, the US Congress and the Bush Administration as proof that you can be wicked in any religion.

I’m looking to start practicing again but I don’t know to any circles or covens around me. It been such a long time since I practiced, and so much has changed since then. I’m not sure where to start.

– Vivian K.

This can be a really hard thing to do because not only do you want a circle or coven that meets your spiritual needs but also your mundane needs as well, such as, “Will I get along with them?” I would best recommend to see via google or local Pagan groups on Facebook to see what is available and go from there. Thanks to the internet, it’s easier to find circles and covens but thanks to the internet, it can sometimes be harder because people worry of being found.

You can look on WitchVox, that also would be a really good place to start.

Is it possible to be A Christian and A witch?

– Albert M.

Short answer: Yes.

Drawn out answer: Yes, there is “thou shalt not suffer a witch to live” but actually, that’s not in the original writings of the Bible, which was “Thou shalt not suffer a poisoner” to live. The word “witch” as we all know and understand it in modern day context actually was not in existence then. The closest back then would have been “doctor” not “poisoner” given witches – also can be considered witch doctors – were giving out remedies and helping the community, not hurting it. The “thou shalt not suffer a witch to live” bit mainly came to be around the King James Version and was moreso a result from the witch hunts and panics of the times.

Christian witches very much are a thing, they simply use the Holy Trinity as replacement for the god/dess figure that is prominent in Paganism, tend to study angel magick and mainly Christian or Abrahamic occultic works. Basically, Christianity is the focus of their practice and magick, that’s it. They still go to church, they still follow Christian doctrine, they’re still Christian, they just add metaphysical practice with their faith.

Hi! From what I’ve read, it seems like the practice of using graveyard dirt in spells, etc. originated exclusively from Hoodoo. Do you know if this is accurate, and if so, as a white witch should I avoid this practice?

– Alice

Graveyard dirt is mainly a feature in Hoodoo (and Voodun, I believe?) The best writing I have seen on this side of the world wide web is Amethjera’s writing titled “Graveyard Dirt – History, Purchase and Uses”, which smartly broaches the topic and confirms that, yep, you’re right, graveyard dirt has origins in Hoodoo.

Now, if you mean “white witch” as in “person who practices ‘good’ magic”, I would say that Hoodoo is not inherently evil – neither is Voodoo – and that magick like electricity: neither inherently good or bad, it’s all in how you use it.

If you mean “white witch” as in, “white person who practices witchcraft”, then I would say just tread verrrrry carefully because it’s a short walk from just borrowing culture to outright stealing it. If anything, if you’re super interested in using it, I highly recommend doing some deep study on the history of Hoodoo, why it exists, why graveyard dirt is a thing and so on and so forth. Graveyard dirt can be really strong in magick and while no faith or cultural practice has a copyright on dirt sitting in a cemetery/burial ground, it is better to be aware and respectful of its background instead of going, “I have a jar a diiiiiirt and it’s miiiiine. I’m so original.”

Just don’t start using overtly Hoodoo things with the dirt such as prayers, deities and more, especially not without heavy and extensive research and understanding of the importance of Hoodoo and how it came about. That’s appropriating/stealing/being disrespectful. Using the dirt by itself – as just dirt that came from a burial ground, any burial ground -, that can be fine. Adding more cultural effects, then it starts to become an issue. But still, read up on the history before proceeding. That’s a must.

Right now I am at my lowest, I feel like there is something negative on me. being I am interested in becoming a witch. But I don’t know if I have to give up being a Christian.

 

– Sherri J.

This question came right at the very end of Aug so I don’t know if it still stands but ‘ey, I’ll give it a shot.

If you’re depressed, that does not mean that there is a fix on you, it could just mean you’re going through a lot of bad things right about now. If you think it is as a result of you starting to think about joining witchcraft, that’s merely confirmation bias and instilled Christian fear/guilt working as a tag team. Also, if you’re really depressed, make sure to talk to someone or keep a journal to get out your feelings.

Now, usually when people come to me and they say “I feel like crap, I’m part of [insert faith here] but it isn’t working out for me, maybe I should try [witchcraft/Paganism/Wicca/etc]”, I remind them that if the issue is belief-wise, maaaaaaaaaaaybe they should consider, but after a lot of introspection and research. But if it is life-wise (job is crappy, life is crappy because of life stuff, etc), then maybe they should be visiting their church/mosque/synagogue/ etc, more because this is where faith is tested the most. Not during the good times, during the bad times. I’m Pagan but I still have crappy days. I practice witchcraft, still have crappy days.

If you don’t want to give up on being Christian, don’t. Nothing says you have to. Only you know if being Christian is working out for you but know that there’s no religion you can go to, no spell that can be casted that is simply the silver bullet for all of life’s problems and woes. Faith isn’t easy, that’s certain.

Today I found a jar with urine and a picture inside of me, What can this mean? A love spell? it was an old picture of me inside and I’m sure it was 5 years or more back since the picture was old and it also had some type of things on the bottom of the jar. Is this any type of spell?

– Emily B.

(Today for this letter would be also the tail end of Aug.) I’m no pro on Hoodoo or Voodun (which is what this reminds me of but it can also be folk magick) buuuuuut one thing I do know is that any time body excrement such as feces or urine is used, it’s not for positive things usually. I simply cannot recall any love spell (not “non-controlling” ones, certainly) that involves what you describe.

If you found nails or anything at the bottom of the jar, this further would make me believe that this isn’t a love spell…it’s more like a fix, a jinx. I would think back to 4-5 years ago if you had any major hardships that seemed very hard to resolve and as if it came out the blue. I don’t believe I got another email describing what’s inside the jar but I can guess that this wasn’t a good thing to trip across. Empty, destroy and bury as soon as possible.

That’s all for today!

I’ve been gone for a while and that means I got messages while I was away. Which is a bit derpy because I said I wouldn’t be answering any while I was gone. The ones sent in around end of July weren’t of bad timing, the ones of earlier July were and not even that smart of a question to start with. So that means I can be as careless with those letters as they were with their consideration.

Hello, I have a question, and maybe I could be wrong but I have no idea at this point. So I was intimate with this woman who said she was a witch. She came over my house and since then a few strange things have happened. My coconut tree folded in half and died, my banana tree died, the strangest is my dog will not stay outside. I usually let her out in the morning and when I get home from work and after work she’ll stay outside for 2-4 hours at a time. Now she will not stay outside any longer than 5 min if that. She’ll paw at the door till I let her in. I was also sick for 2 weeks after being intimate, which doesn’t usually happen for me. Is there any way she cast a spell, or placed something around my house that would cause this. Is there any way I can cleanse myself or my house? If you have any idea’s or suggestions they would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

– Chris C.

Without additional information, this can easily falls into “bad question” category. The reason being is because just because you were intimate with someone who said they were a witch, it doesn’t promise that everything around you will suffer and die. That doesn’t make the slightest sense. I asked for more info but since this question was asked so early, I am certain there’s going to be no response.

If the chick had a nice time with you, I doubt she could be the problem unless she’s vindictive (and if so, why did you get with her? Should have seen this coming) so I’m going to assume she isn’t. If the relationship/interaction went sour, it would make sense. Otherwise, it could be a lawn problem that your dog picked up on but you haven’t. Which should have been the first thing you thought (assuming it was a good interaction or you would have said something), not the last. How about instead of bugging me, bug the people at a home & garden store?

I was wandering can u help me or show me a way on how to become a werewolf?Can u please give me some information.I really want to be one.

– Redi B.

This was so ridiculous, I didn’t bother to clean up the letter. Wandering/Wondering? Why can’t people write better? I mean, everyone makes typos, even me, but it’s no excuse for carelessness in writing to others. They may not take what you say seriously…like now.

I don’t think a poorly read werewolf is what the world need so I would recommend simply reading books that are actually above the literature level of Twilight and go from there. Especially since most metaphysical information isn’t built for lower reading levels. Ok…all metaphysical info isn’t built for lower reading levels.

I’m assuming that this is as confidential as website submission can be?-over the internet right?

I’ve been practicing years upon years-more of eclectic witchcraft. I am a wonderful person with Great sense of integrity, morale’ and ethics… I LOVE helping others in anyway that I can. I hope that you’ll read this with non judgement having said that at least.

I need suggestions for magickal work to balance my life back out- desperately-

Past 3 years of my life everything has continuously went downhill

A man I love walked out on my daughter and I after off and on of 5 year relationship-so I pretty much GAVE UP on being happy in that sense and within a year married a not so great person-at all with a complete lack of personal integrity and seemingly no conscious whatsoever, who continuously tries to DELIBERATELY prevent any productivity I try to create. Including my spiritual practices

Lost my vehicle
Out in the middle of nowhere
Not employed

The child support that I pay for my son from another relationship is an issue. Example- my “husband” said that he was paying it all along this year. Then a month ago I got served-just went to court today.

The father of my son continuously tries to make things difficult for me. (I lost custody of him, because his wife had a lot of money that helped it court. The judge said that they could provide more for him because of their financial status ect)-NOT because IM A BAD mother-BC IM NOT-AT ALL! I feel like I have to explain all of this so you’ll understand I’m doing EVERYTHING I can, and its one road block after another and its GOT TO STOP because my optimism tank is at 1%

Example about sons father- I have always been steadily employed-when I got fired he did everything he could to make seeing my son more difficult- I had to do all of the transportation 100%, he harassed our son about his visits, what he ate, hygiene, visitors everything and if anything was forgotten(such as a belt) I had to travel back to my home over 100 miles one way to get it, or he would ensure another court visit. I wound up losing my job from the time off….

Last December i got 3 cervical disk herniations –won’t go there, but I’ve still been applying for jobs and doing AT HOME SELF PHYSICAL THERAPY THANKS TO YOUTUBE!! and I can now move and walk without looking cripple(and a little magick healing) I applied for over 43 jobs within the last 3 weeks, and that was scoffed at by him today

I’m working on creating a website, applying for jobs and doing everything I can to stay positive, hopeful and Im running low

I just do not know where to begin now that ive made the first step of the day1 full moon”divorce” ceremony I completed successfully…………..

I need things to get better, and it’s obvious that it needs to go this route……the spiritual route…..

I know that with the right rituals I can rebalance everything and things will improve but im having a hard time staying grounded enough to focus all of the ideas I have. Being as it’s a waning moon, I think it’s imperative for me to start when I can but I want to FEEL that the steps I take are the best ones, so I thought that I would ask for suggestions, since I have a high lack in socialization because of living in “the woods” and lack of knowledgeable witchy friends 🙂 Shelters are not an option, nor family and friends for various reasons………

We are not in any “imminent physical dangers”- for me its emotional and mental challenges more to say than abuse- it openly pisses me off, and i silently am discouraged. Please respond as soon as you are able and thank you for your time in reading this rather long feedback 

– Frustrated and Confused

For skimming readers, the TR;DR:

“How do I bring balance back into my life after everything has gone so down hill? Jobless, nearly hopeless, I need balance again.”

The reader sounds like she’s been through a lot. I suggest the reader do meditation, especially grounding, centering and healing mediations. A good suggestion would be to visualize a scale that has heaps of sand on both sides and excess sand falling off until they balance out. That and to try to have a balanced diet (Allrecipes can help) or at least drink a lot of water to keep the effects of stress low. In addition, I made an employment guide on my site with resume builders, how to’s on doing well at an interview and more for various fields. There’s not an overnight solution, especially since this isn’t an overnight problem, sadly. There’s a lot of hard work in getting life back on track and in balance.

Greetings. I would like to know what state you are in? Where’s home? And if you have a picture available for viewing? I can provide a pic as well. Thank you for your attention.

– Raphael Uriel (you know this is a fake name)

This was while I was on break. I honestly thought, “If someone was planning a break-in, they really must be the dumbest criminal ever to just up-right and ask, where do you live?” And why would a pic be needed? What kind of question is that?

My response:

Why all these questions? Sounds waaaaay creepy, dude. Why are you so creepy?

– Black W.

These are indeed creep-level questions to ask a stranger on the internet. At random. I doubt many would go, “Oh, these are totally acceptable questions geared towards me. I usually talk about race, gender, mental illness, identity and metaphysics and other layman topics, questions like these are super normal.”

Dude’s response:

I do understand. Thank you for your time. Just showing interest. I know first hand that trusting people on the internet is not practical. Sorry it came off creepy.  Im obviously not doing this right. Forgive me if i have disturbed your peace in any way. 
Raphael

Ok, I hate guys who do this. Seriously. You come to my blog – which is not a dating blog by the way, or an OkCupid profile – where I talk topics that would certainly make anyone (or so I thought) not confuse it for a dating site, you ask questions that a weirdo burglar would ask (like, how do you just up and ask people “Where do you live? Can I see a picture?” and expect a positive response? Outside of dating sims, how many people have this worked on?) and then give a response like this?

A smart guy (not one stupidly borrowing the namesake of the archangel of wisdom and information) would have probably done what even Dr. Nerdlove recently suggested would have just been a regular reader and just have a regular conversation with me. There’s not really a chance in Hades I would date a reader (Exhibit A of dating fans: Chester Bennington and his ex-wife Samantha, that was painful) and even less so one with zip, zero, zilch tact and social calibration. This site is a regular blog, not meant to catch flies. That minimizes my work. By a lot. Which is insulting because I’m pretty sure guy bloggers don’t get stuff like this an as often.

And if this moron knew trusting people up front on the internet isn’t practical, why did he still ask? Talk about empty-headed! What girl would want a guy like this? The kind of guy that practically needs a helmet, to be spun in bubble wrap and bugged with a gps so they won’t get lost walking through their own house. That’s not boyfriend material, it’s not even charity, it’s a waste of time on worthless space.

No, this guy is obviously not doing this right. And for dude readers going, “Then you should teach him, not chastise him.” Uhhhhh, I mention Dr. Nerdlove all the time now on my site, I seriously may add the dude to the Links of Interest. That means there’s already an expert on the field, it’s not my job to teach the dude how to interact with people, which he should have gotten the basics when he was growing up. Dr. Nerdlove does a great job, this dude should have read him instead of going up like the Hindenburg. Even if I would have turned the dude down, I wouldn’t be this harsh because, remember, tact can be the difference between having drinks with a girl and wearing a drink from a girl.

My response:
Waaaaait. Showing interest? So you go on a site that has nothing to do with dating, at all – the post I wrote previously before the vacation one was about race & gender, not dating –  and mistake it for an okcupid profile because you somehow didn’t know that site existed, then ask creepy questions like “where do you live? Can I see your picture?” as if those are ok questions to ask random people on the internet (something tells me you seriously don’t ask guys these questions right off the bat but try it, I strongly recommend. I’m sure you’ll make many dude friends that way). Y’know, I’ll just post this on my site to make fun of because maybe you should just stick to dedicated dating sites than make yourself sound like an idiot. Why did you think this was a good idea? Swimming in bleach would have been smarter.

– Black W.

Basically this. What moron would think there was a good idea in the initial interaction? May work astoundingly well in dating sims where the girl is literally programmed to have no viable choices. Sucks obscenely bad when you’re dealing with the real world. I know chatting people up is hard but why make it harder for yourself by being such a dunce? I remember a cop friend of mine said “The best pick up line I ever had: ‘Hello, how are you?’” Simplicity and social calibration goes a long way. Way longer than this dude, who crashed before leaving the shipyard. (Granted, folks, please don’t email me with just “Hello, how are you?” Even Cleverbot says more words. Especially to chat me up, then just don’t email me at all.) I already don’t like guys who approach me, I strongly dislike guys who confuse my website for a dating profile. Because they’re already saying, “I don’t take your intellect seriously, especially since I’m not going to bother to match it. At all.” That’s the disrespectful part. It would be different if the guy actually talked and attempted to have a conversation in opposed to saying basically nothing of relevance. At all.

I think the best way a guy has ever shown interest in me was simply talk to me like a normal person. Seriously. This is not like a normal person. If so, how would this dude fair in normal communications in school and getting (and keeping) a job? Not to mention going to the market. This isn’t a dating sim. And I keep making that comparison a lot because it’s true. It really isn’t. I’m giving this dude a hard time because he’s not the first nor the last to act this way and it never gets any less insulting.

All i can do is oppalogize.  As my father says im just a child in this world. Do as you must. Again sorry.

The best way this dude can truly apologize is never act like this to anyone else ever again. Seriously, don’t talk to girls like this manner is acceptable. Talk to them like they’re people, because they are. I’m sure his dad would be right to say that but A) the dude wasn’t born yesterday and B) that doesn’t mean you should act with such little tact, I’m sure his father would agree. How else would this guy be able to have and keep a job or do well in school if going the “I’m a child of this world” route for an excuse, which is what it is. What if his boss was a woman, is this dude just gonna just lose all professionalism and go “Where do you live? Can I see pictures of you?” What if this dude had a female study partner, would dude just go “Where do you live? Can I see pictures of you?” It’s minimizing. There’s other ways to show interest (including figuring out if they want interest shown to them, period) that isn’t the “let me just treat them like they’re pixelated” route. That’s why I’m not going “Awww, this poor dude was trying, lemme be soft.” Nah, there isn’t any trying at all.

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