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Ask Black Witch: Derp Question Edition

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October 25, 2013

Before we start, have you sent in your submission for the Samhain Pickers Giveaway or know about the Black Witch Samhain vcast on Ustream? Info at the bottom of the post!

It’s almost Halloween/Samhain and wow did it show this month in terms of questions. I think the vast majority, if not all questions, I got were quite deadminded this month. Ugh. So I thought, “Hey, what’s a better way to show folks what not to send for Ask Black Witch than through actual example?” Remember, I appreciate only good questions. And eviscerate the bad ones. A person doesn’t have to write drivel to get my attention nor to get me to respond, trust. I try to respond to everyone as much as possible so you’ll get my attention regardless if you call for it but it’s purely up to you if you want my attention in a good or bad way. I still don’t get why people think you have to send sucky stuff or do negative things to be noticed.

Onward with the derp questions! And I’m not even going to do my usual light editing to smooth out super rough edges grammatically or writing wise.

i want to be a vamp plz help
– Leiaia

Short answer: No.

Long answer: Ok, people. Please don’t send me questions like these if you want me to take you seriously. Ever. If she said “Hey, I’ve been reading up on Vampires/Vampyres and even doing research. I think it would be interesting to be one, would you suggest any books or sites so I can learn more about it?” then I would have been fine because, hey, we all start somewhere and I’m a strong supporter in a person doing research using actual research materials, not Wikipedia and some teen supernatural-themed movie. Notice the full sentences, complete with non-txt speak spelling and the acknowledgement that I’m not their first stop of knowledge. If I got that question, I would have probably put in more research myself to help her out (I’m a Witch, not a vampire (I have interacted with the music industry but I’m not that fiendish) so my address book isn’t exactly filled with vampires, mummies and ghouls) and maybe put her on the right path because, yay, information.  This question is no different from the usual “plz help me b a witch”, which is also irritating. And so is the fact the person decided to send it to me twice with no improvements on the second go around. I actually drew this question from the second message (which was just like the first).

dream in a devil, as a living things come through my arms and back. just as 1/2.inch.tall.
– Jose R.

See, this made absolutely no sense whatsoever. All I gleaned from this was: Dream, devil, living things through torso, 1/2″ tall.

That’s still makes no sense and I have done weird dreams before. Probably some weirder than this one is trying to be. And because I did not understand what this kid was saying, I asked to clarify (which I do pretty frequently when I get questions that don’t make a lot of sense). This is the whole exchange:

BW: You’re making little to no sense, you’re going to have to clarify.

J: i ve been wake inside my dream and see the am talk w 4 shades

This dude is still not making a lic of sense. I guess he was talking about lucid dreaming? But still, he has to make sense enable for me to figure out what is going on. And he also decides to load my inbox with more fantastical, broken worded emails in a short period of time

J: what means to wake inside my dream and see the fevil but u side/ or see 4 dark shadows sit with me in a table talk it n play it??

What? He was doing so well at first, making sense and all, but then it descended back down into wtf-ville.

J: so if i can see the devil in my dreams, and the others where this bring me to???

Not exactly a strong achievement to see what you think may be the eternal lord of darkness in your dream. The dude of evil gets around. I still couldn’t make a whole lot of sense to be able to understand if what he saw was a dream symbol or the actual manifestation of Lucifer and work from there.

J: i cast up for a new trails in the shadows of the force that as to be purified to your minstrelsy in the blood that can only under my skin in the soulless incarnation of evil :

Wat da fuc-

BW: Yeah. You’re still making little sense. All I have gleaned from this is that you have the devil in your dreams, which could very well be a dream symbol in opposed to the actual lord of darkness paying you a visit and that there may be other dark entities that you’re seeing in your dream – which could also be symbols but I don’t really know for sure because your responses aren’t that descriptive.

And that’s the last I heard of the kid. I think…nope. He just sends under another email moniker (possibly an honest mistake).

J: hey i know the i would be livin in the underworld.n am ok with it.hey how can be into the black majic i ve been trying but do not work/ive been sleep inside a big pentagram n more. i saw merlin ones in my dream -for real no lie”!!

BW: This has got to be a joke. At least, that’s how I’m gonna perceive it.

J: no joke !!-u are witch.n ve never those( dreams ) cuz i be w then for ever !”

BW: If it isn’t a joke, then could you write out what is going on in better form than this There’s no way I’m taking what you wrote seriously otherwise.

J: well ; the thing is the always i been ve creapy dreams- but like 3 or 4 years ago i start to wrote about the devil- n god- angels- n man-) i ve tons of writing; n then my dreams.ve become more real. the i was it not no if i was sleep or not” ( no body has can tell me not about it .church- people dont want to hear about it” ( i guess ither u — blackwitch “:!!!

J: u ve no answer” i tough someone like u would ?;

BW: I’m not answering quickly because a) I have a life outside of BW and b) you still are making absolutely no sense because I can barely understand your writing since it is not in normal grammatical form. I generally don’t take seriously letters written this poorly because if the person didn’t care enough to make actual sense so I could provide help, I’m not really going to care either. So your option is A) write better in your next response or B) sit it out to the end of the month for the Ask Black Witch.

Everyone, if you’re going to write to me…. Make. Sense. To be honest, everyone thinks the devil is visiting them. Seriously. And don’t bother sending creepy photos like this kid did. They’re creepy and that doesn’t convince me you’re on to something, just some wannabe megalomaniac that’s reaching for any resemblance of relevancy.

And if you sleep in a pentagram, it doesn’t mean anything besides the fact that you probably have partially questionable interior decorating tastes. I think I have friends who also have a pentagram rug, they got it because it matched the drapes and posters on the walls. It’s really not a big deal. It won’t give you magical powers, it’s just decoration.

my name is anaie perales im 21 yrs old been with my boyfriend for fivr yrs and recently of last yrs we got married and we’ve been trying to if we could make a baby but we’ve been out of luck i was wondering if i could have kids
– Anaie P.

Dude, I’m not a doctor. GO SEE AN OB/GYN! A doctor for women and pregnancy would probably be your best bet on deciding if you can have a kid or not. Not me. I don’t even like children. Get some tests done and talk to a doctor to see if you’re infertile or not. Seriously. And if you’re worried about the cost, check out the Affordable Healthcare Act and go from there.

How do one join …
– Sheena

Full sentences are awesome. I really prefer to see more of them. It would have been nice if this person wrote a few herself. For all I know, she wants to know how to join the Illuminati, the Ku Klux Klan, the Republican Party, the circus, the AARP, whatever have you.

And that’s all the Ask Black Witch for this month! Remember, submit your entry to Samhain Pickers, winners are picked on Thursday. Winners get a free divination reading from me! Send in an email to thisblackwitch[at]hotmail.com* with “Samhain Pickers” in the subject line with this info in the body of the email:

  • Name:
  • Email:
  • Type of Divination (dream interpretation, tarot, cartomancy, natal chart):

Also! The Black Witch Samhain Ustream chat is on, you guessed it, Samhain/Halloween. It’s going to be at 9 PM EST. Click on this link to access it.

See you Thursday!

*This is to reduce spam mail I get. Goodness, can they crowd an inbox.

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Ask Black Witch: Want My Dream Home, How Can a Song Be Used as a Spell

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September 27, 2013

It’s this month’s Ask Black Witch, where you ask me questions and I answer them. You can send in questions in a myriad of ways, on site, via Tumblr, tweet, email, comment or send a message on the BW Facebook Fan Page. Remember, good questions appreciated, bad questions are eviscerated!

Hello My question is about spell-casting and being specific about minute details. I have a clear idea of what I want my spell to manifest, but I’m wondering how much detail is just too much. For example I want to manifest a house. I want to it have 3 bedrooms, a large yard, a garage and it has to be blue with Queen Elizabeth rose bushes in the front. Will being so specific help or hinder my spell?

– Mint

Being specific in spells is a really good thing. However, there is such thing as being too specific because the spell may not work out exactly how you want or take waaaaaaaaaaaay longer than you would want to. It seems you have your dream house in mind, which is good that you know what you want now but it may be too specific for your spell because you may change your mind about, say, the flowers or you want to nix a bedroom It’s good to instead find a middle ground with your specifications by having the goal house in mind but casting a spell for just getting a comfortable and happy home because you could get the house you want but it’s wrapped up in red tape, predatory lending or a relationship gone bad. It’s more than just a house that makes a home. So find a middle ground because your idea of a dream home may change over the years and if it does, your spell (which won’t manifest overnight if that’s what you’re hoping for) can still keep chugging along, unabated. Which is what you want.

Okay, I’m confused. How does repeating song lyrics constitute a spell?

Black Witch, could you please educate me?

– Vicki V.

The reader is referring to a spell I reblogged on Tumblr (this is probably the closest y’all will get me to actually posting full length spells on here*, ha!) which uses a spell inspired by Yoko Kanno’s song “Call Me, Call Me”.

Music is a pretty useful way to raise energy, which is necessary for every spell you do. If a song resonates strongly with your intentions, then it can be used in a spell. Since the spell was about getting back in touch with people you haven’t heard from in a while and the song was about the same, the song would work well in the spell as a tool to send out intent. Already in music there is rhythm, rhyming (not all spells need to rhyme, in case someone was thinking that), movement and more which can aid in spellworking. Music is magic and can definitely be magickal.

And that concludes Ask Black Witch for this week! Try to spot me at the Baltimore Book Festival this weekend! I’ll be running around pretending I’m social. If you’re into Jfashion (Lolita, Gyaru, Vis Kei, Shinori, Yanki, etc etc etc), there’s going to be an Afr-Am Jfashion walk in DC on Oct 6. Get in touch for details if interested! I’ll be there. And next month is October, which means that the Samhain Pickers Giveaway is around the corner!

*I barely reblog spells on the Tumblr so don’t think you’ll get a stockpile there, either.

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Ask Black Witch: Is My Friend A Witch?

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August 30, 2013

Hello,

I know this email may come as very random to you. I found you online after doing a little searching. I wanted to ask if you would check out few pics of my friend.  I think they may be a witch but not sure how to ask the question. I think it may be an altar or potion or something.  I can explain more if needed.

Thanks!

Mike

The pictures, thankfully, weren’t of some raunchy images or overly weird stuff but of what actually does look legitimately like an altar – not necessarily a Witch’s altar, the person could be Wiccan or Pagan instead. I’m not showing the pics because I’ve the sneaking suspicion these were taken on the sly and thus not with permission or at least permission to be shown about.

Ok, so you have a friend and they’ve a really Witchy/Wiccan/Pagan-looking altar, now what? Well, there’s always the direct approach of saying, “Hey, so I noticed your table and its really fancy set up. It kinda looks like an altar of some sort. Are you Wiccan or Pagan by any chance?” You can clear the air faster and if the person thought s/he was fooling someone with her really obvious set up, s/he can be made aware that she should be more out in the open…given you didn’t happen upon this via sneaking about (you would be surprised how many people employ their sense of wonder and inquisitiveness at the wrong times).

Now, if they say yes – I really recommend the direct approach because that gets you the answer faster – don’t be judgmental, don’t become a super waterfall of questions (especially dimwitted ones) and if your friend is freaking out because you found out, try to allay their fears that they’re about to lose someone over their practice. One major reason Witches, Pagans and Wiccans alike don’t really announce who they are from rooftops is because of all the unnecessary blowback they, understandably, don’t want to get. People have outrageous responses to hearing that a friend/family/person-they-know practices magick or is some type of Pagan that usually range from “Bad to “Pretty Bad” to “Quite Catastrophic”. Instead, just be a good friend. If they want to talk about it, talk about it. If they admit and then want to drop the subject, then drop the subject. Just try not to make them feel like you’re going to get very weird on them and possibly dart out their life or turn them into the local laughing stock.

And don’t become suddenly paranoid that they’ll put a fix on you or anything mental like that. Life and magick doesn’t work that way.

If they deny, then just ask them to explain in detail exactly what it is that you are looking at and why you came to the conclusion – remember, in detail – of thinking that your friend was practicing magick. They have a legit altar setup with besom, chalice, bell and all so they should come clean but if they say it isn’t, then after you explain how you arrived to your conclusion, drop the subject.

So go on and talk to your friend. You may learn something new about them

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Ask Black Witch

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July 26, 2013

So, here is Ask Black Witch where you ask me questions and I answer ‘em. Good questions are appreciated, bad questions are eviscerated.

Hello, I am not Wicca or Pagan but I seem to have an ex who is . . . . he has gotten obsessive and I have it on good word that he is “scrying” for me and a friend. im not sure what all that in tells but im a little worried so I have two questions for you if you are willing to answer A- what all is this “scrying” I cant seem to find out much on it and B how do I stop it Thank you for your time and consideration

– Shayla

Oy, this sounds pretty bad but not too incredibly.

A) Scrying is a form of divination that is great for finding things, location and people. Think of it as ye olde school geotagging. It also can be used to ask yes/no/maybe questions. Given it takes a lot of skill to be really good at scrying to the point you can best a GPS tracker, you may be ok.

B) How do you stop it would possibly be a binding spell since this seems to be irritating you and rightfully so. You mentioned that you’re not Pagan or Wiccan, however so you can use binding prayers. Not sure what religion you are but if you’re Abrahamic (Christian, Muslim or Jewish), after thinking about it, I would recommend you do some research to find some prayers to provide protection and to bind his obsession inactive.

Do you know of any Witches/Pagans who may need an apprentice?

– Hattie

Nope, ‘fraid not. That’s not something common to ask – unless you’re in a coven, part of certain veins of Paganism/Magick or are paired up with someone to learn a magick trade like herbalism and even then, they keep their selections close to those they know personally instead of shout it out to the world. If you want to learn magick, you don’t necessarily need a teacher to guide you. There are plenty of resources, check out the Resources category.

Hey there, hope your day/night is well. I have a question for ya. How do you feel about astrology?

– S. Dreams

I consider myself an amateur astrologer but I feel that no one should let it run their lives. It is useful but the weight people on it (actually, they put weight on pop astrology) is ridiculous because the average person is not that informed about astrology. And I really don’t like Pop astrology because it is so shallow, stupid, based on erroneous ideas and dumbed down beyond belief. It’s like pop psychology and pop medicine, not useful at all and harms more than it helps. I rather a person actually study this stuff instead of ramble mindlessly about how poorly Cancers and Arieans get along.

Well I fell odd, but I have had this same dream about 15 times I am at this pretty ladies house, on a date when she tell me I can not leave, and that she is a witch, then she smiles at me waves her hand and then I start to shrink, very small she picks me up in her hand , she then sizes me up with a ruler ahh one inch tall you are the perfect size! Odd , I admit fun, am I going to be shrunk down to a tiny man

– Mikey

As much as I like to present myself as fairly progressive and sex positive, I do not like being sent fetish questions like these. At all. Ever. And trust, you don’t score extra points to mention a witch, you actually lose them until you hit the negative. I am not Dan Savage, who probably would have tossed this in file 13 the second he opened it. Go to Dan Savage for sex and fetish questions and please write them better than this.

So, because I was blown away by this and the absolute nerve this dude had to send me this – the only thing that is one inch tall is just the measurement of his IQ or else he would have never sent this – I looked him up and well, look at what I found: turns out he’s been a nuisance for the magick community for years. The dude is in his mid 20s and been asking random magickal practitioners to be shrunk down since he was roughly 21. He asked on Wicca Space, two accounts actually, he has his Meetup where he’s claims he want to learn about the craft but c’mon, seriously? You’re gonna name yourself “Shrinking Mikey” and expect anyone to take you seriously? I don’t know how the St. Paul, MN witches are (which is where this dude is from) but I take it they wouldn’t be nice about it. Pretty disgusted actually because, hello, it’s a fetish and the average person does not like being asked about assisting in a fetish. It is Wicca Space and Meetup, not FetLife.

However, I saw this really funny response to this dude’s antics on Magicka School – where he has posted multiple times back in 2010 asking for the same thing over a span of days – by a poster named Miri:

“You know. That’s a really, really hard spell to accomplish properly. It is intensly time consuming and very complex. It really shouldn’t be attemped by anyone who is unable to trace their lineage back to Merlin, or at least Morgana. But, since you are in such desperate need, I shall share this with you.

First, you must purchase a purebred chocolate Labrador puppy. Must be purebred, and also, it must be an albino. You need to train this puppy so that it sits, no matter what the commotion, as if it stands or moves during the casting of the spell, you will be unsuccessful. When the puppy is 1 year, three months and 14.5 days old, you can cast the spell. No other timeframe will work.

Location – The place you choose to cast this spell must be VERY public, there must be a crowd surrounding you to ensure effectiveness.

Items needed – Powder, made from crushed rosehips or prickly pear. Honey. Albino chocolate labrador.

At the appointed time, smear your hair with honey. As honey is sweet and we all know that tiny things are sweet. Apply the powder to your arms, legs and torso, avoid any sensitive areas as the results could be, ummmn, unappreciated. Sit down, nose to nose with the Albino chocolate labrador. Raise your arms, elbows bent, hands in the outward facing duck position. Recite the all powerful chant 32 times ….

AHHH YAMA SHEET STAH RAH, AHHH YAMA SHEET STAH RAH.

Once recited, stand and do the sacred dance of power. Arms still raised in the outward facing duck position, hop from leg to leg circling the Albino chocolate labrador. Scream the powerful incantation of WHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE! By this time, the powder applied will no doubt help in perfection of this dance.

You will know if this spell has worked by the number of points and stares received by the onlookers around you. Even if you are not magically one inch tall …. you will feel an overwhelming desire to be one inch tall.

I take absolutely no responsibility for any embarrassment, itching, skin welts or feelings of intense shame felt by the performance of this ritual. Perform at your own risk with no guarantee of success, though there is a small likelyhood of arrest for public nuisance.”

That response was golden and very humorous. And I’m leaving this up here in case you bother other Witches and Pagans about this. Dude, don’t shrink, just disappear.

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Ask Black Witch

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June 28, 2013

Huzzah, it’s Ask Black Witch! Where you send me questions and I answer ‘em (or in the case of stupid questions – tear them apart). Here are the questions for this month:

Hey there great blog! Does running a blog like this take a lot of work? I’ve very little understanding of computer programming but I was hoping to start my own blog in the near future. Anyways, should you have any ideas or techniques for new blog owners please share. I know this is off topic however I simply needed to ask. Thanks!

– Coleman

I always like getting blogger questions!

A blog like BW does take some work and since it’s just one person running it, I can’t easily expand BW where I want it to go. Sometimes I’m late with a column! But that’s up to the blogger how much stuff they want going on with their blog.

You don’t need a whole lot of computer programming skills to run your own blog but some basic coding wouldn’t hurt and would even make transferring posts a little easier from a word processor to a blogging platform.

I would recommend you plan things out before getting started. Like, figuring out what you really want to write about, if there’s a whole lot of material in it and how frequently do you want to post, things like that. Once you plan them out, the rest should be smooth running.

 

 

My birthday is Tues so I’m pretty glad this ABW was fairly light (not gonna answer the dumber questions, that’s for later), here’s a kitty stealing a dollar!

And a short film of the daughters of Black Lightning, Thunder and Lightning, that is ridiculously cute and awesome:

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Ask Black Witch

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May 31, 2013

This is this month’s Ask Black Witch where you ask me questions and I answer ‘em! Remember, if you want to ask questions for upcoming months, please feel free to use the nifty ABW submission box on the right side bar. Or you can submit on your mobile device using the QR code beneath it. And as always, good questions are appreciated, bad questions are eviscerated.

And also the BW anniversary is on June 9th but more on that at the end, onward with the question!

“greetings..i had small question..I wonder about honey jar for love..”

– Classy C.

Because this question is unbelievably vague beyond vague, I asked the person if they could expand on their question and they did:

“Longing time boyfriend 12yrs in sept. Trying to move forward & rebuild romance..hasn’t been a walk in the park but we love each other..so I thought honey jar love spell..sweeten him up..turn up the passion ..? Just not sure which method is the best..yes I want to get married..”

I gave my usual spiel of “magick isn’t a band aid for drowning relationships” and added the question of why she didn’t propose instead since it is 2013 and all. Response:

“He is a man of pride but style as well image is everything …ring is like a home it displays he’s got it like that..I just start tellin him we gotta get on the next page..he grew up seeing married ppl at like fools & has that terrible. Image in his head. Me I saw that but I know we are our own directors”

Now, in a few more messages, she mentions that she practices magick occasionally – I asked if she practiced at all because it’s never good to dabble and it isn’t hard to imagine people trying to use magick to make a faltering relationship work despite being total noobs.

In all honesty, I would recommend against the honey jar spell because it seems the spell wouldn’t have much desired effect because there’s a deeper wedge in the relationship that is producing the stammering in romance. A spell like that would be useful if one wanted to spice up the relationship (and the other partner knew about it) but otherwise, it would be smarter to just work out the difficulties in the relationship. Every relationship will have its problems, that’s a result of two imperfect and totally fallible people dating each other, but this sounds potentially fatal to the relationship. Magick wouldn’t solve it unless she wanted to go for a binding spell (don’t do it).

So it would be best to just have a nice, long, hard heart to heart so everyone is on the same page, in the same book, within the same genre. Magick will possibly put passion in the relationship but it will be temporary and again, it ignores the fact that there’s a pretty severe issue in the relationship. The guy is either going to have to let go of his vanity and concern about image or Classy is going to have to be even more patient before achieving marriage. Either way, a communication spell would be better than a love spell for these two.

And that’s all of ABW for this month, which isn’t that bad, given how this month was pretty stressful for me so yay, light load!

Now, about the 3rd Black Witch anniversary. As usual, I’ll be conducting an Ustream chat at 6:00 PM EST on June 9th. You guys can ask me questions, chat with me, so on and so forth. Be there!

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Ask Black Witch

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April 26, 2013

Welcome to this month’s Ask Black Witch. Since there was a series last month, I’ll be answering the questions from last month first.

I recently heard of apotropaic magic, and the importance of mastering it before getting into more advanced type magik. I searched online for books and websites that could point me to some methods of apotropaic magik and had no luck. Could you share more about the topic would you please point me the direction of books and more resources. Thank you.

– Dizzybliss

So, I looked up apotropaic magic because yay rustiness. Apotropaic magick, folks, is basically magick to ward off evil, which is pretty basic. Think of the God’s Eye, knocking on wood or the Evil Eye. This handy dandy wiki page about apotropaic magick.

Because this is so basic, pretty much every book on magick has something about this, one reason people used magick over the years is to ward off evil, bad luck, bad times, just bad stuff all around. I already know for fact that every book I own on magick has a section on it and the history of it. I think the best book for you may be Amulets & Talismans for Beginners by Richard Webster (Webster is great for anything, he knows all, seemingly).

So there you have it. You might have made your search harder than it was.

How can I go about asking a person to cast a spell for me to get money to live very nice instead of living on 1,032 a month.

– Vicki R.

Create a very special job attracting amulet called a resume and a cover letter.

Unless this witch, wizard or high magician has a job opening for you that pays more than what you have, you’re pretty much wasting your time. Money doesn’t rain from the sky and considering the economy, unless you have a strong trade in a field desperately needing workers, you’re probably gonna struggle for a bit longer.

The most a spell could do for you is help put extra favor on your side when it comes to job interviews and that’s about it, the rest is all you. Look for tips on Ask a Manager, far more useful than a simple spell.

Hello I’m a girl from Lithuania – a country that I hate very very much. I’ll be 21 soon and I’ve done nothing with my life yet. Like nothing at all. I couldn’t even bring myself to finish that one last year in highschool. I think about suicide a lot. But the worst is when I think about my future. I see nothing. My psychiatrist asked me about what would make me happy, I told her and she said that my dreams are unrealistic. I have a borderline personality disorder and manic depression. I was hospitalized many times but nothing ever helped, so I think that it might not be a real problem. I’ve tried maditation, a little bit of magick, religion. But now I just feel tired all the time and I see no point of getting out of bed. What could help me? maybe some magick? I read books, it is very interesting for me. And women in my mothers side have interesting powers, if i can call it ”powers”. But also I’ve heard that those women are cursed, including me as well. Some of those had tragic lives. I want to ask what could be wrong with me and what should I do?

– Shirley H.

I’d say get a therapist but you already have a psychiatrist but they don’t sound so effective so get a different one if possible. You don’t want a sycophant for a shrink but one that will work with what you want to achieve (if it is indeed realistic, there are such things as unrealistic dreams, like if a 74 year old rocket engineer wants to be a world-renowned pop star despite not even knowing a single thing about music).

You’re suicidal and think your future is about as bleak as anything, magick won’t solve anything at this point. It may make you feel better but the reality is, you need to focus on your problems. You’re the most common denominator of your problems. If you didn’t do anything with your life, that’s on you, not the world. You could have volunteered, you could have learned new skills via the internet, you could have done whatever. It does suck having disorders – I have a laundry list of them myself – but it’s not like you were fully incapacitated unless you forgot to mention you’re in an abusive household. That’s life with a mental illness.

A personality disorder can be a ream of disorders, you should have been more specific because they’re not all the same. Bipolar can also be dealt with as well. Meditation is good – it’s great, actually – but don’t assume it’s going to help you perfectly heal because it won’t solve the problems, just help you manage them. And don’t dabble with magick, you need to talk to a decent therapist, not take a wack at the occult.

So to recap: Get a better therapist, try to be more proactive with your problems, keep meditating and feel free to read up on magick but hold off from doing any until you’re better.

So that is Ask Black Witch for this week! And oh! Due to unforeseen events, the karaoke event will be canceled! Sorry folks!

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Ask Black Witch: Off Day

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February 22, 2013

Hm, second straight month with no questions. I guess I need to do a better job in promoting the submission methods. Ah well, that leaves me a free space yet again where I’m free to do whatever I want. Maybe I’ll focus on derp question. These questions are poorly asked, fairly stupid and just overall bad questions. I know some folks said that I should accept anon and that would get me more questions – and they’re not wrong exactly – but here’s the funny thing about anon: It just gives people a mask to be mean and nasty moreso than ask relevant questions. Since I’m a race and religion blog, that intersection can bring all sorts of bigots out of the woodwork. I rather those folks identify themselves as much as possible and huzzah, the fact they have to keeps them at bay, which is exactly what I want.

Before I continue on, I would like to talk about the BW series that I’ll be doing next month. I was really crossed between talking about mental illness or sex and sexuality. I think both are very important issues, equally important, because they are among the most stigmatized. However, I have chosen to go with sex and sexuality where we will be breaking down:

  • how sex and sexuality is perceived, exemplified and used in culture, entertainment and media
  • breaking away myths on sex, sexuality and gender
  • talking about how religion and society gets involved
  • intersection of racism and sex, rape, rape culture and slut shaming – and how sexism is bad for both men and women
  • the effects of internalized bigotry (racism, sexism, etc) and how that affects sex and sexuality
  • and much much more!

I felt this was an important topic to cover because, let’s face it, there is so much misinformation out there it is insane. If you’ve heard of “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” or simply noticed that Steve Harvey and Tyrese have been allowed to talk on such subjects that they should stay the furthest from, you know that there’s a lot of misconceptions about sex and sexuality, especially in the Western world because of imperialism and centrist views, which then gets a layer of racism and other bigoted beliefs piled on top. A lot of people don’t know what counts as healthy relationship behavior, healthy sexual behavior or healthy attitudes towards both and, man, do they showcase that to the point of ultra-creepiness. If there are any folks who would like to ask questions about anything in regards to this subject, they can but we’re still going with my basic format of good questions are appreciated, bad questions are eviscerated so if you don’t like being made fun of, please ask a good question.

We’re also going to be doing a lot of intersection because how rape and general cultural disrespect affects White women is NOT how it effects everybody else so if anyone whines about how I’m not over obsessing over Gloria Steinem and Susan B. Anthony, note that I am more about Ella Baker and Ida B. Wells – and that this is not Feministing.

Alright if you want to submit for the next Ask Black Witch:

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Twitter, questions can be tweeted

And I shall skip asking derp questions since this filled up enough space and I wanna get to my new Deadpool and Miles Morales Spiderman comics.

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Ask Black Witch: Off Day

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January 25, 2013

No questions this month so that leaves me open to talk about whatever. I’m feelin better, no more cold but I do have a lingering cough which is going away so yay!

Now, I have free space but I don’t feel like rambling about anything. I’ll answer some derp questions. Naaaaaaaaaaaaah. I had a good time at Janelle Monae’s Inauguration Party earlier this week so I’mma do some music!

Here is some Deep Cotton, “We’re Far Enough from Heaven, Now We Can Freak Out”

And here is a song that Janelle Monae’s guitarist and my good friend Kellindo collab’d on, “Uhuru”, produced by Lance Powlis.

Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaay! I’m not a party person but it was really fun!

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Ask Black Witch

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December 28, 2012

It’s the last Ask Black Witch of 2012! Let’s hope in the next year, I’ll get even more questions! Let’s start!

Dear Black Witch, Is there any kind of sorcery that is good for combating depression or for good emotional health?
– Nigel P.

I had followed up with this email because it should be known that you don’t have to do magick or anything else of the occult to solve mental problems. Hey, even I have a therapist. The reader responded that he will be seeing a therapist soon and is reading Carlos Castaneda.

Now, I’m glad that he’s getting some therapy for his depression and to maintain his emotional and mental health but I rather him be more cautious on using any metaphysics to solve mental or emotional problems and this is for anyone. When dealing with mental issues, metaphysics should be dialed back some because it’s an easily frustrating and stressful field that can tax the mind. Depending on the severity of the mental issue, that should be the main focus because once that is at a stable level or done with, the metaphysics practice won’t complicate things. Practicing metaphysics is fine but when you have mental health problems, it’s important to treat it like a physical health problem. If you had a cold or a broken leg, you take time out to care for it, ditto with issues of the mind. It sucks but necessary.

While there is that, it is also important to have a good therapist that is actually going to help instead of being a money pit. A good therapist should accent your life and help you deal with your troubles in a way that benefits you. So if you don’t want medication to treat your problems, for example, your therapist should respect that. Your therapist should listen to you and if they show any bias that could conflict (such as you being Black and the therapist is White and simply showing it), move on to the next. There are therapists for every pay scale and regardless of whether or not you have insurance. I checked through Google by simply typing “therapist”, clicked “Maps” and went from there. I also looked on Psychology Today, Pagan Therapy and a couple other links Google provided. I’m on a sliding scale so I pay next to nothing for the therapy I receive and actually need. Don’t settle for one that doesn’t work with you or refuses to listen to you. And if their personal opinions seem to color how they treat you, leave.

What are your thoughts on offerings or lack thereof in rituals and spellwork?
– Terri B.

Hm, it doesn’t really bug me. I don’t, actually. When I got started into Paganism, I was a teen still under my parents’ roof so no physical offerings happening there and thus it stuck. I try to offer time and talent so that is kinda like an offering but no physical ones.

Are they unimportant? No, they can be very important and for some spirits and deities. And definitely read up on the various deities and if they absolutely need offerings or not to build a relationship. I choose not to, and it’s a possibility I could change in the future, but it doesn’t mean that others should go without if they actually want to. There are different ways to celebrate and communicate with a deity.

And that’s ABW for this month and this year! Yaaaaay! And don’t forget to shop at the Black Witch Gift Shoppe! And use the end of year 35% coupon: DoneWithTheHolidays

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